The Difference Between The Hypocrisy of Christian Men and Women

October 26, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad45 Comments

Dalrock’s blog has been at the forefront of exposing women’s refusal to obey the clear commands of Scripture and pointing out that, as a rule, their rebellion is because they don’t like what God had to say. Unfortunately, and I say this as constructive criticism, there is a similar condition for the men in that certain points the Bible contains are not discussed because they are profoundly uncomfortable for the men.

In fact, Christian men refuse to accept the standards of behavior the Bible requires of them for the very same reasons the women rebel against God’s Word. Plenty of Christian men in the manosphere will probably take issue with that, but it’s true. In fact, these same men will reject what I’m saying for the same reasons the women reject what God has to say- it’s just too uncomfortable.

I married a very attractive, conservative Christian woman 10 years my junior who was still attractive and still enjoyed having sex on a daily basis after giving birth to more than 6 children. Judging from the commentary in the Manosphere that makes me an extreme outlier in the marital sex sweepstakes. Yet, she drank the feminist kool-aid and decided after 17 years of marriage that she was missing something that must involve another man’s penis… so she took me to court and destroyed our family. Yes, what she did was completely immoral but at that time I didn’t know what was happening and I’m convinced that if I’d understood then what I know now I’d probably still be happily married.

According to the Bible, she had no authority to divorce me (no woman has that authority) and God won’t recognize or accept an illegitimate divorce (c.f. Matthew 5:32-33 the woman could only commit adultery if she was still married, but if it had been a legitimate divorce she would no longer be married and thus couldn’t commit adultery). So, lawfully we’re still married and 1st Corinthians 7:10-11 applies to her. Just as she had no authority to “divorce” me, much less any reason to do so other than her NPD fueled EPL fantasies, she has no authority to “remarry” another man (a married woman cannot lawfully marry another man)… not that any man she’d be attracted to would have her at this point.

To continue the narrative, we get into areas that become progressively more uncomfortable to men, particularly Christians, because what the Bible says doesn’t agree with what the churches have taught for well over 500 years. The problem here is there are two sides to the ledger: Authority and Responsibility. My wife doesn’t get to sentence me to celibacy because men have the authority to take more than one wife and if they choose to do so God provided His rules for such marriages in His Law. God does not regulate sin. I recently told some friends that I’d never do monogamy again, and it’s true: even if I married another woman in a monogamish type marriage (which I’d never do), I’d still have two wives and if #1 ever wanted to come home I wouldn’t have a choice in the matter (c.f. 1st Peter 3:7: “Husbands *live* with your wives”). Yes, I’d expect #2 and #3 to be standing at the door with smiles on their faces to greet #1 and welcome her home.

The major point that makes Christian men and women extremely uncomfortable is the headship doctrine. “Wives, submit to your own husbands as unto the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife just as Christ is the head of the church. As the church is in submission to Christ, so also is the wife to submit to her husband in everything.” That is a massive disconnect for women who can’t stand the idea that they are to be in submission to a man, but it gets worse.

The relationship between Christ and His church is a master-servant relationship, so therefore the relationship between husband and wife is a special form of master and servant relationship. That alone is enough to cause the white knights to come out of the woodwork, pointing and shrieking. The point is further made in 1st Peter 3:1 that wives are to submit to their husbands, in silence, even if their husbands are disobedient to the Word. Is adultery disobedience to the Word? Of course. And the wives were commanded to do what, if their husbands are disobedient to the Word by committing adultery? Submit, in silence. Not only the women but also the men go ballistic over that, but it gets better. The first part of 1st Peter 3:1 says “Therefore” or “In the same way” which is a direct reference back to 1st Peter, chapter 2, the instruction to masters and servants. Read it and understand that it applies to the wives as well.

Christian wives claim that they want their husbands to love them as Christ loves the Church and this is one area in which the wives have a valid complaint although it’s based on ignorance. How does Christ present His church as spotless and blameless in the day of accounting? Revelation 3:19 is one specific part of that, He hold’s His church accountable: “Those whom I love I reprove and chasten; be zealous therefore and repent.” A reproof is verbal, chastening is done with a rod. It’s right there in one of those areas of Scripture that’s studiously ignored, because to mention it is to evoke screams of outrage from both men and women.

However, there is yet another side to loving the wife as Christ loves the church that is mocked and ridiculed, as evidenced by the comments in many threads on Dalrock’s blog as well as other Christian manosphere blogs. The problem is while men can legitimately claim that the women are in rebellion and using the police power of the state to abuse men, the men are also in rebellion because Christian men are completely uncomfortable with just how far their grant of authority goes and the responsibility such authority likewise entails. It literally scares Christian men to death.

I recently got into one of these discussions and after destroying one argument after another my opponent was finally reduced to saying this:

“I believe what I have been taught, that… [polygyny and all it entails] is sin.

An attack on Artisanal Toad’s position cannot be made by showing a prohibition against it, as no verse does so. The question then becomes, how do I make a Biblical case that it is sin absent such a verse?”

My response was simple: Romans 4:15 and Romans 5:13 are clear- if God did not prohibit something in His Law, it isn’t Sin. That isn’t to say it isn’t sin for a particular person (“whatever is not from faith is sin” and “to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin”), but those are personal issues between the individual and the Holy Spirit and the brother is NOT to be judged over such issues (Romans 14:4). To say that an Apostle in the New Testament “changed” the Law is incorrect because that would have them in violation of Deuteronomy 4:2 and 12:32“You shall not add to the word I am commanding you, nor take away from it, that you may keep the commandments of the Lord your God which I command you” and “Whatever I command you, you shall be careful to do; you shall not add to nor take away from it.”

Yeah, I know, lots of people have problems with that and I take massive amounts of flack for pointing out that a man can have more than one wife and even more flack when I point out just where that can lead.

My opponents’ answer exemplifies the attitude of both feminist women and feminized men, who are so indoctrinated in the ethos of our modern-day culture that issues like God’s ordained authority structure (the headship doctrine) and the responsibility of the one God has placed in authority to hold those under his authority accountable are not allowed to be discussed for fear of the point and shriek response by feminists and their gamma SJW churchian white knight defenders. They ignore the fact God requires husbands to hold their wives accountable and seek to find some Biblical justification to claim it’s a sin. At the same time, the aggrieved men who have been run through the divorce mill, had their families destroyed, been subjected to betrayal trauma, gas-lighting, passive aggressive behavior and worse are in their own way rejecting what the Bible has to say about how to deal with their wives.

I can understand Dalrock’s reticence and unwillingness to allow discussion of such things (I’m guessing) for fear of being painted as an extremist. I am well aware (probably more so than most) that the legal climate in which we live presents Christian men with the choice of either obeying God or man because of the laws that criminalize what Christians are ordered to do. Yet, we also have God’s Word:

Jesus said to “Render unto Caesar that which is Caesars’ and render unto God the things that belong to God.” Marriage belongs to God because it was created by God, marriage is a covenant relationship to which God is a party, God provided His rules for marriage and Scripture says God takes an active part in the marriage (God opens and closes the womb, children are a gift from God). The problem is this gets very uncomfortable very fast.

This Is How It Works

Marriage belongs to God, not to the state. God created marriage (Genesis 2:24), God gave His rules for marriage (Ephesians 5; 1st Cor. 7; 1st Peter 3 and lots of others), God claims to join the husband and wife as one flesh (Matthew 19) and God is a party to the marriage because it is a covenant agreement (Malachi 2). Therefore, it is idolatry to give to the state that which belongs to God (Matthew 22:21).
Husbands are in absolute authority over their wives. Wives are commanded to submit to their husbands in everything (Ephesians 5:22-24) even if said husband is in sin (1st Peter 3:1). The husband is commanded to love his wife as Christ loves the church and part of that is the responsibility to hold her accountable in her behavior and if necessary to discipline her for her rebellion (Revelation 3:19).
No woman has the authority to divorce her husband (Deut. 24:1-3). In fact, 1st Peter 3:1 specifically states the wife is to submit herself to her husband even if he is in disobedience to the Word, which means adultery on the part of the husband is not grounds for a divorce, even if women had the authority to divorce their husbands. The only place in Scripture that provides any justification to a wife divorcing her husband is in 1st Corinthians 7:15 in the case of an unbelieving husband leaving the believing wife. In such a case the wife is free to remarry, but only a Christian man.
God will not accept an illegitimate divorce (Matthew 5:32-33; Matthew 19; etc). As we’ve already seen, no woman has the authority to divorce her husband (except for the cited exception) so any divorce on the part of a woman is illegitimate as far as God is concerned and the woman is still married.
A woman who legally divorces her husband and marries another man is not really married to the second guy because she is still married to her original husband: both she and the man she’s now “married” to are committing adultery (Matthew 5:32-33; Matthew 19:9; etc.).
For two married believers, divorce is forbidden. The wife is commanded not to separate herself from her husband (but if she does she’s to remain single or be reconciled to him) and the husband is commanded not to send his wife away (1st Cor 7:10-11). This did not change the Law (Deuteronomy 24:1-3) but is a further restriction placed on the bondservants of Christ by their Master.
If the wife who separated herself from her husband comes to the point of repentance and seeks reconciliation with her husband, he is commanded to live with her, meaning he doesn’t have a choice in whether he takes her back or not IF she (in repentance) confesses her sin and willingly submits to him (1st Peter 3:7)
A man can have more than one wife, so a man whose wife has separated herself from him can legitimately marry another woman, but he has two wives: one living with him the other having separated herself from him. The state will claim he’s divorced but from God’s perspective he isn’t and the second wife should be clear on that fact and be aware that the husband has a responsibility to be reconciled with his first wife if she ever wants to come home.
All of the above can’t be argued because the instruction concerning marriage is among the most clearly stated in all of Scripture. It’s so clearly stated when taken all together that rather than discuss it most Christians prefer not to mention it at all.

The subject of one of Dalrock’s recent posts, Constance, said this:

“My ex husband and I had a mutual divorce 5 years ago and I’m still not over it. It hurts every single day. There was no cheating, just a long period of separation and drifting apart… I deeply regret the divorce and I feel like I had amnesia and trying to find my life back.”

She may call it a “mutual” divorce, but odds are she’s the one who pushed the issue, she’s the one who filed and her husband went along with what was obviously a done deal. Reference is made to the woman writing the frivolousdivorce blog to emphasize the point Constance was responding to:

“I didn’t have the strength of character to make it through the demanding years of our childrens’ teenage and college years. If I had endured those tough years, I would now have a companion to come home to, to eat dinner with, to go to a movie, travel, and grow old with. I do all of those things alone now. Seven years after the divorce, I still miss him.

Another woman has him as a husband and best friend now and he has forgotten me.”

If both Constance and her husband are Christians, there is a major problem with her situation and it’s sure to make most Christian men extremely uncomfortable. The point is Constance clearly violated a command from the Lord when she separated herself from her husband and she was further commanded to either remain single or be reconciled to her husband (1st Corinthians 7:10-11), but this is where the men rebel. The Word says “husband,” not “ex-husband” because she’s still married. Her husband was commanded in 1st Peter 3:7 to live with his wife and in Ephesians 5:25 to love his “wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word.”

But look at the responses of the men. It’s as if nobody ever heard of the book of Hosea. Yes, the husbands were placed in absolute authority over their wives (who are to submit… in everything), but with that authority comes responsibility and forgiveness isn’t optional if the wife returns, confesses her sin and in repentance seeks reconciliation. Yes, he can demand she toe the line (scripturally speaking) as a condition of reconciliation, but if she’s willing to be obedient he’s stuck with her.

Why do you think the disciples said to Jesus in Matthew 19:10 “The disciples said to Him, ‘If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.’” They understood that Jesus was saying that if you marry her you’re stuck with her. I have no desire to ever have my wife back in my life after what she’s done, but God willing, if she ever made the decision to seriously seek reconciliation I must trust that God will give me the grace to embrace her again (along with the extra 140+ pounds of lard she’s put on- excuse me while I vomit). I’ve read lots of horror stories of divorce, but I must say that I have to be in the top 5% of acrimonious divorces. This woman is STILL trying to put me in jail and refuses to allow me to see my children (the judge gives her anything she wants).

Marriage is a type of the relationship between Christ and His church. What sinner, when he or she returns to Christ in broken repentance is ever rejected by Christ? How then can the husband, who made a vow to God to love her all the days of his life… how can he reject her when she returns to him in repentance after she has sinned against him? The answer is he can’t because they’re still married as far as God is concerned, regardless of what some judge says. Husbands, you were commanded to live with your wives and commanded not to send them away. If your pet land-whale comes back to you in repentance and submission, you don’t get to say no.

You say the husband married another woman? So what- like that’s an excuse? No, he now has two wives and an obligation to provide both of them with equal food, housing, clothing and conjugal rights (Exodus 21:10). That isn’t a polite suggestion. You might say “that’s illegal!” but you’d be wrong because it isn’t (see Brown v. Buhman, which struck down Utah’s prohibition on polygyny). Many people claim it’s a sin, but that disagrees with Scripture: Romans 4:15 says “Where there is no law there is no transgression” and Romans 5:13 says “where there is no law there is no sin imputed.” Not only is there no law prohibiting polygyny, but rather exactly the opposite: God regulated polygyny in the Law in the same way He regulated farming. God does not regulate sin, He prohibits and condemns it. In fact, look at Jeremiah 31:31-32, where God said He was married to both Israel and Judah. To claim having more than one wife is wrong is to claim God did something wrong… Christian, you probably don’t want to go there.

The point is simple: Women have some real problems with Scripture and what God says, as do men. However, there is a difference: Men were placed in authority over women, not women over men (1st Timothy 2:12-15). With authority comes responsibility and it is just as wrong for men to avoid the uncomfortable passages of Scripture that point to the extent of their authority over women and the corresponding responsibility men have been given for them as fathers and husbands as it is for women to avoid the uncomfortable passages of Scripture that point to the extent of the authority men have been given over them.

Yes, she divorce-raped you, took half your stuff, stole the kids, alienated them from you, screwed them up to the point they now have behavioral problems, got used as a cum dumpster by multiple men… but now she’s finally realized what a fool she was and is repentant. She wants to have her husband back. You married her, you have an obligation as a Christian to take her back.

Yes, you’re stuck with her. After all, you made a VOW to God, who will require that you keep it (Read Numbers 30).

Yes, I know, it doesn’t seem fair. The fact remains that Ephesians 5:22-24 is very clear. In commanding women to submit to their husbands in everything, the corollary is the husband has responsibility for his wife in everything. Look at Numbers 30, the law of vows. Just as wives will not be able to escape judgment by claiming she was legally entitled to divorce her husband for any reason or even no reason at all, so too the men will not escape judgment for refusing to hold their wives accountable because holding a wife accountable is now criminalized. Neither will they be held harmless for refusing to forgive and *restore* their wife if she is convicted of her sin, confesses it and seeks reconciliation in repentance.

There are solutions to these problems but to refuse to discuss such issues because they are uncomfortable for men and upsetting to women and their gamma white knights is not the answer. The situation we’re presented with is extremely complicated, but King Josiah faced the same situation. What did he do?

If you’ve made it this far, I’ll give you guys some relief. There’s a fairly simple way to ensure she’s serious about repentance and submission, but wife #2 had better be on board for it as well. In fact, part of the problem is men refuse to recognize the wife of their youth is in sin and still a wife, regardless of what some family court judge says. They refuse to acknowledge that and explain to their second wife that as far as God is concerned they’re still married to wife #1. In doing so they defraud their second wife. However, I’d guess that over 90% of the so-called “Christian” wives who divorced their husbands are unwilling to accept the following:

“Hon, while you were in rebellion against both God and me, I took another wife. If you want to come home, that’s great, but you need to understand that I will require that you meet your obligations as a Christian wife. That is, you will submit to me in everything. One thing I require is that you get along with my other wife. In fact, we will all sleep in the same bed and when we have sex all three of us will become very intimately acquainted. Scripture is completely silent on sexual contact between women and there’s nothing sinful about it, so I don’t want to hear the word no pass from your lips because nothing we could possibly do together is sinful. You had a monogamous marriage with me but due to your rebellion that’s changed. If you want to come home you’ll have to deal with it, cheerfully.

That separates the wheat from the chaff.

Underground Houses

October 8, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad7 Comments

Expanding a bit from my previous post about growing ginseng, I’ll talk a bit about building an underground house. The correct term is actually an “earth sheltered home” but most folks would call it an underground house. Underground homes can be extremely expensive to build and all you have to do is hire an architect who doesn’t know anything about it. He’ll consult with a civil engineer and you’ll wind up with something that looks like it was designed by the department of defense with a comparable price tag. Fortunately, there’s an easier and much less costly way to do it, using what’s known as “off the shelf” technology.

The basic building block is the ubiquitous shipping container.

These things were made to hold about 30 tons of whatever needs to be shipped and fully loaded, stacked 8 high on ships to be transported around the world. Truthfully, these things changed the way global trade works. Ships come into port fully loaded and spend less than 24 hours getting unloaded and reloaded. It’s amazing.

The first thing to notice is these things are made of steel. Steel can be cut and welded. In the picture above, the containers are hooked together, but when they get welded together they are a really strong single unit. In fact, they’re ideal for building an underground house because the weight of four or five feet of dirt on top is nothing compared to what they were designed to hold.

A second critical piece of building material is the bridge panel. These are lengths of prestressed reinforced concrete that engineers build bridges out of (among other things).

Let’s start with the design of a 1900 square foot home made from six 40-foot “high cube” shipping containers. A normal 40-foot shipping container has outside dimensions of 8’x8’x40′ which means a ceiling of a bit over seven feet on the inside. The high-cube containers have exterior dimensions of 9’6″x8’x40′ which means about 8′ 10″ for the ceiling height. That’s more in line with standard residential construction.

This home is 48’x40 feet in exterior dimensions, with the bottom facing the south and a wall of windows on the dining and living room and more standard windows for the kitchen. Keep in mind, this is a simple floor plan. The children’s bedrooms could each hold anywhere from 1 to 4 children with lots of room for their stuff. The master bedroom and bath aren’t huge, but what’s the point of designing a home for sybaritic excess if most of your time will be spent working somewhere else? This home can be built for under $60,000 and a 20% down payment is only $12,000. The only problem is finding a lender, because this isn’t “normal” housing and they worry about the resale value if the home has to be foreclosed on and sold.

I believe it’s possible to get a lender to give such a home consideration due to the very low cost to build and the fantastic energy savings, but it just depends on how anal they are. If a bank won’t lend, there are a number of private lenders who can and will lend with a well-written loan proposal. In this case, being able to show the low cost, energy savings and other advantages will go a long way toward convincing them. A reasonable family budget demonstrating that such a home could be easily paid off even working a low-wage job will probably do the trick.

One of the neat things about building this way is the home can be built as modular units, pre-wired and pre-plumbed. If you look at the plan carefully you might be able to tell that the second container from the left is the only one that contains plumbing, with all three bathrooms and the kitchen sink and dishwashers all contained in that container. This makes building the home far simpler to build than a “normal” home, in which one has to wait until the home is under roof before putting in the wiring and plumbing. What this means is the home could quite literally be built over time with a pay-as-you-go approach.

A crane will be required to put the units in place, but an empty shipping container only weighs about 8000 pounds so figure one in which finishing work has been done will weigh no more than 10,000 pounds. That’s only five tons. This means that two containers can be welded together and a crane can still easily lift them to put them in place. If the containers are properly placed on a good support when they’re delivered, fitting them together correctly can be accomplished with 8-ton bottle jacks. Once welded together, the sections that need to be cut out can be removed and finishing work can be accomplished.

In the plan above, notice that almost all the work will be in the left one third of the home. In fact, the middle third and right third are basically just removing and installing walls. Because of the corrugation of the steel walls, running the electrical and water lines is easy to do before putting the drywall on. Quite literally, this is a home that could be semi-finished by a single person in less than a year before being lifted into place and welded together.

If desired, three 20-foot containers could be positioned perpendicular to the home to make a two-car garage with 10’x24′ parking bays. That would add to the cost of the home or it could be added at a later date without any problem, but the point is this could be considered a “starter home” that has a simple design and provides enough room for a growing family for years to come. Five 20-foot containers gives the home a garage, storage area and a private space if it’s desired. Something like this.

That plan has a safe room and an escape tunnel, which isn’t a bad thing to have in our most interesting of times. The nice thing about this is the garage, storage space and safe room will cost out at about $15 per square foot, or an extra $12,000. That extra 320 square feet of storage and safe room space could always be finished out as living space, bringing the home up to 2200 square feet. It’s rather easy to build an escape tunnel out of three-foot steel culvert, but that costs out at about $25 per foot just for the pipe, so 400 feet of escape hatch tunnel will set you back about $10,000. All that together would bring the price of the home to somewhere in the neighborhood of $82,000.

For those preparing for the zombie apocalypse, the ultimate security measure is a couple of precast concrete panels that can be raised quickly to seal off the front of the home. This isn’t nearly as difficult as one might think, because it isn’t that difficult to dig a couple of pits for counter-balance weights. A 24×9 4 inch thick concrete panel only weighs about 10,000 pounds, or five tons. That’s the same as a 4 foot by 4 foot by 4.5 foot block of concrete. A lesser means of security can be had by taking steel panels removed from the interior of the home and crafting them into rolling steel shutters that close off the front of the house on barn door hangers.

One note on safe rooms and escape tunnels. I realize that some readers of this blog might be tempted to do something contrary to the laws of the land with such a hidden room, and might even figure that running banks of metal halide lights would make up for the lack of other electrical usage and not show an inordinate power consumption; and the escape hatch could be used to vent interesting smells out into the woods.

Listen carefully. If the home is hooked to the grid, it will have a smart meter, which will be able to tell what the power is being used for. The only way to defeat this is to run the incoming power through an inverter into a battery bank and back out on the other side. Such a battery bank would provide backup power during power outages and would allow the installation of solar panels or wind generators if wanted. It also makes efficient use of a generator. As with any such endeavor, unless it’s for personal use, the problem isn’t the job, it’s the company you have to keep.

The escape tunnel should always go downhill away from the house to prevent water infiltration. It’s possible to run the first section downhill for 40 to 50 feet to a sump with a drain, before going uphill with it, but God help you if your drain becomes clogged and the tunnel fills with water at the low point when you really need it. Recumbent bicycles and specially built skateboards can travel quickly through such a tunnel. Anyone who ever shows up at your home with evil intent will not have looked at the land registry before coming, so a little creative landscaping can give the appearance that a property line is much closer than it is. For homes on large tracts of land, a hedgerow that defines the yard likewise serves to restrain movement, channel the intruders and keep them focused on a rather small piece of terrain. In more residential settings the escape tunnel could literally go to another building several hundred feet away that appears to belong to someone else.

There is another type of tunnel that’s useful above ground. Plants like Washington Hawthorne, floribunda rose, acacia, osage orange and others all produce lots of sharp thorns and can form an impenetrable hedge. It isn’t unusual to see a treeline overrun with such plants and planting these bushes three to four feet apart and later pulling the tops together so they grow together can leave a hedged in tunnel underneath if care is taken to keep the interior trimmed. This was a favorite of mine as a child, when I took old woven fencing wire and created arbors which were quickly overrun by honeysuckle and wild blackberries. Carefully trimming fields of fire later in the season made these the ultimate deer-hunting blinds. I strongly favor protecting the exit point of your escape hatch with a hedge of protective plants that will prevent anyone from getting close to it.

For those not so inclined to wild scenarios, a simple escape hatch can utilize a short piece of culvert and a ladder that goes straight up, out of the house onto the top. The only problem is if there’s a fire, it creates a wonderful chimney effect to fan the fire. Not that there’s much to burn in an underground home, which is constructed of steel and concrete. Drywall doesn’t burn and one would have to work pretty hard to get the home on fire to the point it did some serious damage. However, the problem with fires is smoke inhalation and even a small fire can kill the occupants.

One of the critical points to an underground house is air flow. There isn’t a lot of room for standard HVAC ductwork, so the solution is to go with a high velocity mini-duct system which uses 3″ tubes instead of standard ductwork. this allows almost inobtrusive ducting that allows a constant flow of air through out the home. Standard homes leak air from the outside all over the house. Underground homes don’t, so care must be taken to keep the air circulating and a supply of fresh air coming in. If the builder installed an escape tunnel, that can be rigged up to bring in fresh (earth temp) air, but a fan is required.

Another critical point to these homes is insulation. Use sprayed on closed-cell urethane foam insulation sprayed on the outside of the house, three to four inches of it. This will ensure there is never any condensation on the ceiling or walls of the house. Failure to do this will result in a home that over time is uninhabitable due to the condensation and resultant mold growth. On the inside, the walls must be covered with drywall or some other wall covering because the steel reflects too much sound. I suppose cloth wall hangings such as tapestries would work as well or even better though, but I’ve noticed that women like things to look “normal” even when they aren’t.

One other critical point is drainage. Build the home into the side of a hill, and I don’t mean at the bottom. When the site is excavated (like any residential construction) the water and sewer lines need to be dug in first. In addition, gravel and perforated pipe needs to be installed to ensure that any water infiltration that makes it under the house is drained away downhill.

One of the big decisions is whether to put the containers on piers or a slab. The slab will be more expensive and has to be completely level, but piers work just as well if not better. As long as the house is level on a solid foundation, it isn’t going anywhere. What is critical is a monolithic foundation that supports the corner pillars of every container. Piers will suffice to support the floor rails. Overhead, a 4 inch reinforced slab will distribute the load and prevent the ceiling from buckling from the weight of the earth, or one can use precast reinforced concrete panels that have the advantage of being pre-stressed. These have the advantage of being trucked in and stored until needed, put into place with a crane and immediately sprayed with foam. With proper preparation one could literally put the modules in the ground, put the roof in place, foam it and have it covered with dirt in a single day.

Back to our simple house plan, a good way to support the overhead load is to have a four-inch gap between the three joined 2-container units and fill the gaps with concrete. Everywhere you see a red line represents a 4 inch concrete support wall, which means no extra reinforcement is necessary on the sides of the containers. The back of the house has corner pillars every eight feet so very little extra reinforcement is necessary there.

Shipping containers were designed to support weight on their corner pillars, not on the roof, so in order to keep the dead load of earth overhead, reinforcement needs to be provided. Concrete is a very cheap way of doing this. In fact, for remote sites renting a large concrete mixer that mixes a yard at a time might be the best alternative to having concrete trucks deliver it. Not as easy, but not nearly as expensive either.

This post wasn’t designed to teach you how to build an underground home, but I did want to make a few points about how they’re constructed and the benefits of living in them. Essentially, with a good supply of water these are comfortable, safe and effective homes with no electricity at all if they’re designed right. Tornado and storm proof, convenient fallout shelters, soundproof and mostly bulletproof, a lot can be done with a house like this.

Alternate Investments For Alternative Lifestyles

September 30, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad6 Comments

Ginseng and China

Let’s say you’re living in Kentucky (near Frankfort), married with 3 boys, four, six and seven years old. You’re working as a janitor making $34k (take home) but there’s a nice health care plan. You want your wife to quit working, homeschool the boys and have a few more babies. She loves that idea but can’t see how to afford it because even with both parents working you can barely make ends meet. And what about the children? How could you ever afford to send them to college?

If one looked around carefully it would be possible to find something along the lines of a 40 acre parcel of land 20-30 miles outside of town for less than $1500 an acre. Typically these properties only have about 15 acres are even close to flat and the rest is hillside covered with ‘young timber’. That means it will be 30 years before the timber is worth anything, so for now it’s considered hunting land. Just to be sure, as of today (April 2017) a search for land was done in central Kentucky and several parcels from 40-75 acres were found that were priced at less than $1000 per acre.

The purpose of finding a farm like this is three-fold. First, you need enough land to have a farm where you can produce most of your food and almost all your high-value food. Second, having such a farm means you can arrange things the way you want them without having to worry about what the neighbors think. Third, such a parcel of land offers the correct habitat to grow ginseng.

Wild ginseng is almost extinct and when planted as “wild simulated” ginseng there is no difference between the wild and the wild simulated because all the planter did was help out nature by planting the seed. The price of wild ginseng has risen dramatically in recent years and has regularly been selling for over $1000 per pound of dried weight. The market for ginseng is China and it’s always been China. There is no reason to expect the price of ginseng to drop or the demand to dry up.

Ginseng is a business with an increasing demand and a declining supply.

Each acre, planted correctly, will yield about 200 pounds (dried weight) of 10 year old roots. By law, in order to comply with the international treaties governing endangered species, ginseng cannot be harvested before it’s 5 years old. However, after 5 years the roots can be dug out of the ground. The older the roots the bigger they are and the more valuable they are. If necessary roots could be dug to provide money every fall after the plants are 5 years old, but it’s far better to leave them in the ground to grow.

So, the idea is to find a place that will support all these requirements because once it’s planted it’s almost completely maintenance free.

An Example Of What To Look For

Of these, we’ll focus on one of the properties on sale now, a 74.15 acre parcel with an asking price of $65,000. That’s the asking price for the land, $875 per acre. I don’t know how long that listing will be up so the link is to the archived page. The price is excellent, but let’s look at why it’s a good deal. Because even at $850 an acre, the land might be completely unsuitable. This property is actually a very good option from what an be seen online.

What you can see from this property is that there are two sections of north-facing hillside that would be excellent for growing ginseng. This is a satellite view:

The ridge-top land can (and should) be cleared to create productive pasture land. That would probably come out to around 30 acres and a good bulldozer operator should be able to knock out clearing out the trees and some of the stumps in a week or so, running at $400 to $600 per day. To give you an idea of the lay of the land, this is more of a terrain photo from satellite imagery:

Just below that balloon, there is a good location to put in a large pond (lake) of 3-5 acres. The biggest problem in that part of the country is water. The ground is hydraulically tight and getting a water well is almost impossible. Putting in a good-sized lake would ensure that the farm had an adequate supply of water and after that it’s a matter of pumping it to where you want it.

This property is better than most when it comes to good land for growing ginseng because there’s at least ten acres of excellent terrain and perhaps another ten acres of terrain that would work but isn’t as good.

A very nice 2000 sq. ft. 4BR 3BA earth-sheltered (“underground”) house can be built for $30 to $35 a square foot ($60k – $70k). Monthly utilities would average around $100 per month. No TV, no cable, just internet and phone. The home can be designed to include steel that make it tornado proof. Along with a few other features, it’s a very secure, defensible home and the utility savings compared to normal homes is over half the mortgage payment. Best of all? Farm housing is exempt from the building code. You have a farm, it’s rural and it’s exempt from the building code so build the home any way you like it.

Combine that with a full-blown homesteading operation and plan on an 80% savings in food costs by producing your own veggies, meat and dairy products. Flour, rice, beans, spices, condiments and such are cheap.

Put the land into production and specialize only in items in demand locally in order to sell better, organic food at a lower price than the Tysons/Con Agra stuff in the local supermarket. And in most states, on-farm sales are exempt from sales taxes. Kentucky is one of them. Keeping costs low, the mortgage can be paid off quickly because the farm chores only take up two to three hours a day, which leaves plenty of time for full-time employment.

Plant 10 acres of wild simulated ginseng and after 5 years start harvesting seeds, which are worth $150 per pound. Let’s say you get 10 pounds per acre each year and sell them. There’s another $15k in income every year, or keep planting your own land if it will support ginseng. Start harvesting in year 10 and pull out as much as needed at $1000 per pound to pay for the following year plus have another $15k in cash for immediate emergencies. With that done, quit the day job and start scouting for farms for the sons. Buy each son a farm about 5 years before they’re ready to leave home and help him plant ginseng on it.

By the time the 20 year mark hits, there should still be at least 5 of the original acres left. 20+ year old ginseng roots are extremely valuable and rare. Ginseng is like money in the bank locked up in a 1-year CD that the government can’t steal.

This plan offers more opportunity to generate wealth with less risk than sending a kid to college and then out to find a job. Buying farms for sons when they’re 14-15, they get started with their own farm early. Plant the ginseng first, move him to the farm at 18-19 to get it into production. Live the first few years in a super-insulated cottage (can be an office later) and when he’s 24-27 years old he can pull out enough to build a home, be self employed and arguably have a net worth of several million dollars. Country girls looking at the farm, the debt-free home and the lifestyle it offers might be interested. At some point she’d find out about the ginseng, either before he marries her or after, because there’s no way a wife won’t find out about it.

Has he set himself up for divorce because he’s worth too much for the marriage to last? After all, women most often tend to frivorce their husbands when they’re young. Or should he make a big production of planting a new patch of ginseng in a different location, explaining that it would pay for the kids college and fund their retirement in 10 to 15 years. Presumably she would stick around for the maximum payout, right? If things start looking bad he can liquidate the old stuff as fast as he can and be in a position to hire a really good attorney.

There’s always the poison pill approach too: tell her that if she ever files for divorce, files false charges against him or anything like that, somebody will wander through that ginseng with a sprayer full of weed-killer and a few million dollars worth of ginseng will go poof.

I know of no other long-term investment that offers such excellent returns in such a short period of time and facilitates a rural, healthy and independent lifestyle than growing ginseng.

Theater, Improv and Game

September 28, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad1 Comment

When I was in HS I got some really good advice and joined the stage crew for the production of “Annie Get Your Gun.” I liked it. For the first year all I did was work backstage with sets and stuff but after I got a little more confidence I auditioned for parts and finally got a minor one. Fast forward 10 years, I was in San Diego, fresh out of the Corps and going to college. I was invited to audition for a play (cold- I hadn’t even looked at the script) and got type-cast on the spot as a knuckle-dragging neanderthal military character.

That got me involved in theater again and for the next 4 years I had parts in a half-dozen productions. We’re talking about community college theater, folks. All volunteer and most colleges make you enroll in theater classes if you get cast because that’s where the money comes from to put on the production. These tend to have a lot of younger college aged people. Other community theater groups skew heavily toward middle age and their money comes from donations and ticket sales, it just depends on the group.

If you’re shy, have difficulty with social interactions, approach anxiety or don’t have a lot of social skills, set your sights on community theater instead of game. Yes, hit the gym. Yes, learn game. Yes, approach women, but get involved with community theater. Here’s why:

The tools and techniques to become a better actor will help you to become better with not just women, but with all people. If you can develop the confidence to get on stage in front of an audience, giving a corporate presentation won’t be a big deal and neither will approaching women. I cannot think of a more brutal job interview than a casting call. The kind of practice you can get in a theater group that teaches, compliments and reinforces game is amazing. One of the things that will get trained is your wit and you’ll have professionals helping you understand how to present yourself in the best possible way. Learning how to connect with an audience will also teach how to connect with individual women.

The social aspects are also important because it’s involvement with a group that has a mission. Being a part of a theater production is to be part of a team that will be very close for a short period of time. It’s damned hard work learning your lines and blocking and you’ll spend a lot of time with the rest of the cast getting it right before the curtain goes up. However, hang in there because once accepted you’ll be a theater person forever after. One of the neat things about theater is most of the actors have a desire to improve their craft, so when actors get together in public it’s natural to do some improv. Why? Because that’s what theater people do.

Steroids are to gym workouts what improv is to game.

The goal of improv is something like dancing, in which the partners are working to bring their characters closer to each other and develop harmony of pattern and movement. It forces the participants to think on their feet and be prepared to change direction at a moments notice, because the secret is nobody is really in control. In fact, if someone dominates things, it loses all its charm. That’s why one of the primary rules is to listen, which teaches just how hard it is to listen. Another rule is to agree rather than disagree, which keeps the narrative flowing.

Getting a cast working well together is often a function of character development and interaction but the script only provides so much support for an actor getting into character. The thing about improv is each person has to stay in character and everyone is required to adapt and adjust to whatever anyone else says. The story is thus developed as you go along and is only limited by the imaginations of the people involved, provided they stay in character. There’s absolutely no way to know which way it’s going to go which makes it fun and forces each actor to refine their character. Game teaches rules and says go approach women to practice but the women have zero investment in the approach. Improv has women who are invested in their own growth as well as that of the others in the group. For guys who have a hard time talking to women, a few hours of improv every week with instruction will work wonders. That’s what theater classes are for.

If you take any courses in theater in college (one of the easiest ways to get into it) improv will be required and if you’re currently in college this is a great way to get some experience without auditioning for a part. After a few classes and with a bit of experience you’ll be ready to hit the casting call and audition. This usually requires a couple of short opposing monologues (no more than 2 minutes each) and some improv. Possibly a reading from the script, but that’s usually only for a call-back if/when you’re being considered for a particular part. Check schedules and sit in on a casting call and you’ll understand. Getting cast is a huge commitment because if you take the role and then can’t meet the rehearsal schedule, learn your lines and show up for performances you’ll wind up blacklisted. A reputation for reliability and teamwork is worth working for and a theater director can be one hell of a reference on a job application.

Casting calls can be brutal and seldom if ever will a director explain why any individual actor did or didn’t get a call-back. So, you get up there and give it your best and wait like everybody else to see if you get a callback. If you don’t, it’s like getting shot down on approach- she wasn’t interested, so move on and try again. If you get a callback the director is looking at the interaction of the actors, some of whom are already cast and others may or may not be cast depending on the “best fit” with the rest of the cast. I’ve seen inexperienced actors chosen over much more capable actors because of their onstage chemistry with other members of the cast and completely unexpected casting decisions if the director is trying to do something different. I’ve also been invited to audition by directors who saw me audition for other productions when I didn’t get a call-back.

Improv doesn’t need to have scripted characters and there have been plenty of times I’ve been with other actors who spontaneously created characters and a story line. Usually because they were getting bored (which can be a problem for actors). One of the things about improv in public is the people around you are often used as unwitting participants in your production and people on the periphery become the audience. Street theater if you will, because it gives legitimacy to saying the most outrageous things you can imagine, as well as the physical actions to back them up.

For guys who have a problem with shyness or social interaction with women, improv with a theater group is perfect. On one hand it’s a game and as long as you’re trying, nothing you say or do will be held against you later. OTOH, it’s real and you have to participate or else. If you’re new, experienced people will work with you and feed you slow easy ones right over the plate because it’s a challenge for them to try to guide both their character and yours in the direction they want it to go. I had friends who had “stock” characters they really liked and sometimes those characters became their alter-ego in a weird way. After a while you knew when they’d slipped into character just from their body language and the way they looked at you… and knew they were making decisions about who else was around that could be dragged into it and the overall intended audience. Because people are naturally voyeurs.

Improv can be demanding and mentally exhausting and forces the actors to be on their toes. Some people are naturals and others have to work hard at it but as much as anything it’s a matter of practice. I had friends I hung out with and we had a set of hand signals, mostly for body language and congruence so we could communicate without breaking character. Some people prefer to do improv in a sterile environment (focus on character, interaction and dialogue) others (like me) prefer more public forums because I like the idea of having an audience.

I had a final exam for an improv class on a spring afternoon at a crowded cafe in San Diego. I was paired with another non-traditional student (about 30, like me) and we decided on our characters, chose the subject and direction of what we were going to do. Part of our grade was our performance with each other and part of it was the effect our performance had on the audience we chose. We had a couple of people at different places in the local area holding tables at cafes looking for the right audience. We got a good hit from what had to be a bus tour and wound up with several tables of mostly “women of a certain age” from the Midwest sitting next to us.

The prof grading our performance arrived, got a seat with a good view and we got started. A classmate was across the street waiting for her cue. We got into character and into our ‘bubble’ and after a few minutes nobody else in the world existed except the two of us, and we were in love. Some risque comments were made and there was lots of touching. This was out of doors and there was a lot of street-noise, so we had to speak loudly enough to hear ourselves that the other tables could hear us. We were oblivious to that.

We had thirty minutes and the first 10 minutes was to get the intended audience’s attention as a young couple so in love with each other they were blind to the world around them. Total campy romance. We definitely had attention at the ten minute mark when Carol ramped it up into the second act.

“Darling, things have been getting a little stale lately. What do you think we could do to spice things up?”

I gave her steady eye contact for a while and smirked.

“Why don’t we get a girlfriend? You were into that in college so it shouldn’t be a problem and as long as she doesn’t get pregnant, hell, we would hire her as a live in housekeeper.”

Our eyes were completely focused on each other and she nodded. “That could be a solution, but we’d have to both agree on her and it’s always the two of us first, then her. If it’s ever a choice between her or us, she goes. Agreed?”

There was now total silence from the women at the tables next to us. We finally got service and ordered a round of wine, I moved around the table to sit beside her and what followed was a conversation about the physical aspects of various women within viewing, with descriptions good enough that the listeners could identify them and make their own evaluations. What they didn’t realize was we were using other women to discuss the appearance, physical attributes and deficiencies of the women who were sitting next to us listening in on our conversation. We moved back and forth, from talking about us to talking about other women and what we found attractive or unattractive.

We hit the end of the second 10 minutes with an uncomfortable audience. I made the signal and Terri (young and very attractive classmate) got up, walked down the sidewalk, crossed to our side of the street and approached in our direction.

“John, isn’t that your ex-girlfriend? Would that be too much like playing with fire?”

“I think she’d be perfect. Question is, who’s she going to respond to? We parted on really good terms but I don’t know if she’s still into guys.”

“Nobody would believe she was our housekeeper. My God. Look at the way the women are watching her and their men trying not to. Why did you two break up?”

“My last deployment was for 8 months and by the time I got back she’d moved on. We got together a few times, but it wasn’t the same… and then I met you and that was it.”

“If I’d realized she looked that good I’d have been a lot more concerned. I don’t remember her looking that good. How old is she?”

“Let’s see… she can’t be twenty-one yet. She’d just turned 18 when we got married, which is the only time you ever really met her and she looked like shit that day.”

Carol stared at me in shock. “That means you started dating her when she was what, fifteen?”

I shrugged. “Her mom is French and her dad is retired Navy. They both liked me and decided I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I didn’t know how old she was until her sixteenth birthday party because it never came up, but her folks didn’t care. They wanted me to marry her before the last deployment but she’d just turned seventeen and that would have caused problems.”

I stood, called Terri over to our table and invited her to join us. She came over, Carol rose as well, and I gave her a hug and a playful kiss on the mouth. Carol objected.

“Hey- if you kiss her don’t I get even time?” That part was scripted to make it sound like she wanted a kiss from me.

I look from Carol to Terri and shrugged. “Seems to me that’s up to her.”

Terri reached over, gave Carol a hug and a kiss on the cheek but in full view of the women next to us gave her ass a squeeze, which was hidden from me. We all sat down and full scale seduction was on. Terri and I caught up on each other’s lives. She was going to school at UCSD, not seeing anyone but doing a bit of modeling. Carol and Terri went back and forth with a little conversation and a lot of subtext. I ordered more wine and gave Terri a glass.

There was a lot of sexual tension and Carol (total improv) unhooked her bra, pulled the shoulder straps off her arms and pulled the bra out from under her shirt, putting it in her purse. She looked Terri in the eye and said something about hating to be restrained. Terri laughed and did likewise. Then Carol explained things were getting stale for us and we’d decided we needed a girlfriend. Our body language clearly said we were interested in her. She smiled and moved closer toward us but adjusted so she was slightly facing our audience.

Our goal for the final segment was to keep the audience in a “what will they do next” spell of intense interest, but while we were still in our bubble (now including Terri) and completely oblivious to them, Terri wasn’t and they knew it. Sometimes she’d make a comment looking at us, sometimes looking in their direction, making it obvious she knew they were listening and didn’t care. That was the final piece designed to draw them in, taking them from audience to participants.

We kept it up until we hit the 30 minute mark and called for the check, staying in character. The prof came over as we paid the bill and we turned it off. We stood, turned to the ladies and he told them what we’d done, thanked them for being such a gracious audience and we left to help other students prepare for their exam. He stayed and asked a few questions about how believable we’d been (he’d made notes of some of the reactions), thanked them and left to do another evaluation. We both got a B+ (“very believable”) and I got a reprimand for giving a minor (Terri) a glass of wine in a public place.

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When participating in public improv there’s a fine line in these situations in which everyone should expect to be pushed based on individual capabilities. Are you not participating on level with everyone else? It’s OK, they’ll adjust. Be prepared for someone else to come up with a humorous or embarrassing reason why you’re in the dumps and explain it to the waitress or whoever. And that’s now part of your story and you have to deal with it. This is probably one of the greatest ways to learn how to blow away shit tests there is because it forces you to work to come back with something funny, witty or whatever. Agree and amplify is the go-to response because a but-hurt answer will get slammed.

The magic of theater is the emotions you are forced to project are real. They have to be in order for you to be convincing on stage and that’s the reason for the improv- learning to both control and project the emotions as needed. The structure on which the emotions rest is artificial, but again, the emotions are real. Learn how to guide the improv for the women and even though it’s just a game and they know it, the emotions take over and things happen. This is why relationships among actors tend to be fluid. Romantic leads often become an item during a production and then break it off afterward, as well as others in the cast and crew.

If the final exam I did with Carol and Terri had been in the early evening with no further commitments and we’d bounced to another venue together, that night would have ended with all of us in bed together. Carol was a red-headed bisexual living with another woman but getting her itch scratched when desired from a couple of guys in the group. She worked as a waitress, did theater and was working on a nursing degree. Terry was a beautiful but boring 20 year old student that I dated for a few months a year later after she turned 21. The sexual tension was real but the point is the attraction was the result of the emotions that had to be generated for the performance. The “relationship” aspect was pure fantasy but the emotions were real.

My experience with women in community theater was that they tended to be serious, because flaking on commitments is a huge violation of the code. Doing theater soaks up an enormous amount of time so these are not women who spend much time in nightclubs getting hit on. The demands and schedule of being in a production means you need a clear head almost all of the time and many of the women I met doing theater drank seldom, if ever and didn’t do drugs at all. They also care about their appearance. Theater requires a certain passion and commitment that most people simply don’t have, thus there are ‘theater people’ and everyone else.

Doing theater is a natural compliment to game. It’s a passion, an unusual hobby and introduces you to people that are amazing. Go out with a bunch of actors and wild things happen. Roll into a venue with a high-energy mixed group of friends having a good time, most or all of the women attractive. That’s all the social proof you’ll need. People will always ask if it’s a special occasion or something. When they find out it’s the cast of a theater production, you being part of it is an instant DHV. Other women will cheerfully allow themselves to be pulled away from their friends into the group because of the comfort and energy. After that it’s game and logistics, usually more logistics than anything else.

Being needy shouldn’t be an issue because in the experience of every guy I knew that had been cast a few times, they had zero problems getting laid. Maybe they weren’t pulling the hotties that got leading roles, but there were always plenty of good-looking cast and crew members available and willing. Understand, you have to make your bones, showing up on time, learning your lines and blocking, showing everyone you’re being seriously professional about the production and a team player before really being accepted. I have known people to quit good jobs because the boss changed their schedule and that interfered with a production they’d committed to. I’ve seen actors onstage when they should have been in a hospital. So, yeah, theater people can be weird, but it’s the kind of weird you can be proud of.

The, Ahem, Other Muscles

September 26, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad6 Comments

I look at this as an interesting matrix of technology in conflict with social norms where it impacts the feminine imperative. One of the foundational truths of red pill wisdom is to ignore what women say and watch what they do; and the internet is a pretty amazing thing. When given the chance to comment anonymously and without any male ego on the line about what size penis women really preferred, this is the result:

(Image Credit: Huffington Post https://images.huffingtonpost.com/2008-06-16-0chart.jpg)

Penis size is an area in which men pretty much had no control until very recently. Women will tell a guy what he wants to hear, but the chart above indicates why the idea of “Chad Thundercock” exists. The median penis length for a white man is about 5.7 inches fully erect. Assuming a normal curve (this is biological so the “fit” is not exact but it’s pretty close) the first standard deviation on men (68.2%) is between 4.8 and 6.6 inches in length. That’s the average guy.

The second standard deviation gets a guy out to about 7.6 inches and it isn’t until the third standard deviation (statistically that would be a little over 2% of men) that a guy has an erect penis between 7.5 and 8.5 inches long. However, if you notice the distribution on the chart, it’s skewed in a narrow range to favor girth instead of length. The median erect girth is 4.8 inches with a standard deviation of .5 inches. Thus, the average guy is 5.7 inches in length and 4.8 inches in girth. The 2nd standard deviation begins at 6.6 inches in length and 5.3 inches in girth. That is larger than 68.2% of all men. The 3rd standard deviation begins at 7.6 inches in length and 5.8 inches in girth.

Notice something about that chart, compared to the statistics:

Notice that small square on the left with the “50%” in it? That represents half the male population. Expand it out to the edge of the 1st standard deviation, which is 68.27% of the population. See where that gets you? Continue out to the edge of the 2nd standard deviation and now you’ve got a dick that’s 7.6 inches long with a girth of 5.8 inches and according to this chart, you’re barely in the “very satisfying but not ideal” range.

It took me a while to figure out how, if so few men had a tool that large that women knew what was the ideal size. That question was answered in two parts, the first with one word: “dildo.” They do not make “average sized guy” dildos, so it turns out that in at least some cases the guy is competing with a fantasy fueled by a dildo that’s bigger than the penis possessed by over 99% of the men out there. The second, it turns out, is women are horrible at guessing size and they tend not to carry around tape measures.

I worked my way through college as a waiter. One place I worked had a wine station right behind a couple of booths with a screen that prevented the customers from seeing us working, but we could hear every word. You cannot believe how many times I overheard conversations from groups of women that revolved around how good their new boyfriend was in bed and how big he was. Or how bad he was in bed or how small he was. Seriously. I think it’s why some guys have no trouble dating a woman and then working their way through her circle of friends. Granted, he has to have more going for him than just the size of his penis, but it seems to be something women talk about. Ever notice that one of the go-to insults a woman uses on a man is that he has a small penis?

Most guys are somewhat apprehensive about the size of their penis if they’ve ever overheard those kinds of conversations. The problem with the penis is it isn’t a muscle, it’s an exoskeleton. We know that working out with weights results in getting bigger muscles (for those with testosterone) but what could be done to grow the penis? That’s a problem of a different sort and as it turns out, very few people ever did any research on the penis (the scientific kind). Trust me, you will never hear a scientist (or for that matter any woman) so cheerfully discuss the subject of the penis in a non-sexual way as Diane Kelly does in her TED talk.

As it turns out, based in part on her research, there is a way to get the penis to grow. This is probably the ultimate review of the Bathmate, which is a hydrostatic penis extender that works to grow the penis (over time, permanently) in both length and girth. This guy is what I’d have to call a “true believer” and he posts pics of himself to prove it (don’t worry, there’s plenty of warning before getting to them). But this kind of begs the question of why a guy would want a bigger dick. In most cases it’s because he learned the lesson about listening to women who say “just be yourself” and he got a look at the chart above.

But, this is where the social aspects of all this get interesting. Why is it that the women want a guy with a big dick? I get that it’s an issue of how it feels, but this is a two sided equation. On one side is the size of the penis and on the other side is the “fit” if you will, of the vagina. If you read any PUA type blogs guys constantly talk about moving on after a divorce and getting with women who are younger, hotter and tighter. So, why don’t women take responsibility for their lady-bits? They do pilates and yoga to look good on the outside, why not work on the inside too?

Vaginal tightness was something which women pretty much had no control over until recently. About 5 years ago I got to know people in a local Russian expat community and the women talked about the problems in Russia (way more women than men) and said there was a school that taught “girl game.” Literally, how to be feminine, flirtatious, sweet, complimentary to men and how to manage the process of getting the guy from acquaintance to husband. One part of the school was physical training of the vagina. They called it VUM training and said once men had been with a woman who’d been through that training, they would never be satisfied with another woman again. Blew my mind, but it also made me curious. They use a device something like the Kegelmaster but its got a biofeedback component… some kind of lightbar that shows the women exactly what the muscles are doing. As the muscles got stronger the women learned how to control what their vagina was doing. You can imagine…

Of course, that’s Russia and the US medical establishment refuses to report on most Russian medical research. Amazingly, there’s been some bleed-over in spite of that.

It turns out there has been an explosion of childbirth related uterine prolapse problems in the US, attributed to a lack of exercise by women. Well, I guess anyone that looks around can see it, but that’s what drove the development of the Kegelmaster and other devices like that (Ladies, you simply must read the reviews on the Kegelmaster). Then came the feedback of the effect on sex and while the doctors and researchers who developed this knew it was coming they had no idea of the response. Women were like “OMG!” Then came the idea of combining a vaginal exerciser with a sex toy and we got the Magic Banana. Now there’s even an exerciser with its own smartphone app. You just can’t make this stuff up.

I’ve been watching the discussions around the sphere lately on sex robots and that sort of thing, which has highlighted the double standard between men and women. Women are praised as being empowered when they buy vibrators and other sex toys but men are shamed for buying something like a fleshlight. (If you don’t know, it’s an artificial vagina that looks like a flashlight). My fascination is with the trends. If one looks at the societal trends of the last 50 years, think about the trend in fitness and the accompanying societal standards.

If one looks at male models of the 1970’s and compares them with the male models of today, the most notable difference is the huge increase in muscle mass. The standard in what it means to be considered “good looking” for men has changed, probably on a permanent basis. Women’s standards haven’t changed much because men have always liked the same things in women. Annette Kellerman wouldn’t have any problems getting interest today.

My question is where the whole penis extension thing is going. If a guy got a Bathmate, used it and got a big dick, would that encourage him to stay in a relationship (especially if his wife was “lovin it”) or would the increased confidence cause him to go looking for something else? Of course, he’d have to find a way to hide it because if the wife/GF found out he was using a penis pump her automatic response would be shaming.

On the other side of the coin, if women got a lot more enjoyment out of sex because they exercised the right spot, where would that lead? Would they be more likely to stay in their (now) sexually satisfying relationship, or be more likely to figure that if it’s *this* good with the guy they’ve got, what would it be like with a guy that’s bigger? In other words how would her hypergamy react to having her own “chinese finger trap”?

According to the Bathmate people they’ve sold a lot of them and from what I can see of the evidence, they work. There are other devices that also work to one extent or another but evidently none as well as the Bathmate. According to the people who make the Kegelmaster 2000, they’ve sold a lot of them. There are also lots of other vaginal exercisers on the market. The point is, will we see a tipping point on either of these things? Will we see the point at which guys buy these things in high school in the same way gym rats are eating steroids like candy?

Would it still be the same chart if all the women in the sample had been using a vaginal exerciser and were as tight as they wanted to be? I have no idea. Is the chart at the top proof of the “Alpha Widow” phenomena? Could be.

Given the way women are, a normal sized guy gains an advantage with women by having a bigger dick, but especially with younger women. For obvious reasons and because women talk and it’s a talking point. When I was young a guy just needed to look reasonably good and not be needy in order to get laid. Charisma helped a lot and the ability to approach, but it wasn’t that difficult to get laid. Later, some game was required. The stories coming in from the field say that to be competitive in today’s sexual market a guy needs to be jacked and have tight game. How much longer until he not only has to be jacked and have tight game but needs to be hung as well? Another decade? Maybe, but I doubt more than two decades will pass before having a big dick is as important as hitting the gym. It’s called competition.

Women (especially those hitting or about to hit the wall) gain a huge advantage over their competitors by toning up down there. I know women in their 30’s and 40’s who complain about having to have sex by the second date or there won’t be a third. They’re all divorced, they’d all like to get married again and they are not happy with the fact the men they want not only don’t want them but their second choices don’t want to get married again (once bitten, twice shy). I’m thinking that really toning things up and being virginal tight might be a selling point.

They say the tipping point on vibrators and sex toys becoming socially acceptable for woman was the Sex In The City episode about the rabbit (1998) 17 years ago, and today they’re ubiquitous. I’m waiting for the scene in a movie where the woman tells the guy to put his finger in her and then after he does clamps down on it and says “OK, try to pull it out.” I guarantee it would be as famous as the orgasm scene in “When Harry Met Sally.” What’s so funny to me is a good FUD campaign would sell millions of these things because plenty of women are insecure about how tight they are just like men are insecure about the size of their package. Think of it as the modern-day “ring around the collar.”

Looks like I’ll need more popcorn.

You Can Smell The Gamma White Knight Fear

September 7, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad15 Comments

A thread at Vox’s has now run over 950 comments, although it’s been put in moderation and is now moving at glacial speed. It started off on the subject of my last post and moved on to the subject of polygyny and girl-on-girl sex. Yes, guilty as charged. For those of you who’ve seen me do this elsewhere before and wonder why I do this every year or two, part of it’s developmental and part of it is looking for patterns. As far as the argument goes I think it’s as developed as it’s going to get but I believe I’m finally seeing patterns of behavior associated with this argument and it don’t look good.

I’ve been through all the arguments before, so on this particular thread I took a new approach. I decided to grab the “third rail” of polygyny and bring the issue of “sleeping arrangements” and female-female sexual contact to the forefront and deal with it head-on. After months, my primary opponent was reduced to this:

I believe what I have been taught, that all homosex is sin. Attacking Artisinal Toad’s position cannot be made by showing a prohibition against woman-woman sex as no verse does so.

The question then becomes,how do I make a Biblical case that it is sin absent such a verse?

Look at that: He said an attack “cannot be made by showing a prohibition against woman-woman sex as no verse does so.” That’s an admission of defeat because according to Romans 4:15 and 5:13 “where there is no law there is no violation” and “there is no sin imputed when there is no law.” These passages define what sin is in the general sense, that is, applicable to all people for all time. In order to make a Biblical case that “it is a sin” where God was silent, one has to add to the Law, which is specifically forbidden at Deut. 4:2 and 12:32.

In other words, a Biblically correct case for sin on this issue cannot be made without either violating Scripture (adding to the law) or engaging in intellectual dishonesty (lying about what Scripture says). The argument is mature and ready for live audiences, it just needs a little polish. This is my exegesis of the matter:

If God had wanted to declare female-female sexual contact to be a sin, He would have done so. God chose not to do so. He didn’t forget and He didn’t accidentally leave it out because God is perfect. In Leviticus 18:22-23 God universally prohibited certain classes of sexual acts, but look at the sequence:

Men with men: prohibited
Men with animals: prohibited
Women with animals: prohibited
Women with women: *TOTAL SILENCE*

All other prohibited sexual contact is relationship based. God’s inclusion of women with animals as universally prohibited indicates He chose not to prohibit or condemn women with women. Quite often we see the male pronoun used to represent both men and women, but in some areas of the law we see both men and women mentioned. This generally means the men and women are being treated differently. Numbers 30 is another example, with the Law of Vows.

Where there is no law there is no violation and no sin is imputed when there is no law (Romans 4:15, 5:13) means sexual contact between women is not sin. Adding or taking away from the Law is prohibited (Deut. 4:2, 12:32), so Romans 1:25-27 cannot be construed as a prohibition or condemnation of whatever the women might do sexually with each other without placing Paul in violation of Deut. 4:2 and 12:32 with respect to what he wrote in Romans 1:25-27. I’m pretty sure Paul’s response to that charge would be “May it never be!”

After that are the minor quibbles that try to paint polygyny in a bad light.

Deuteronomy 17:17 says the king is not to multiply wives so more than one is wrong.
God created Adam and Eve, not Adam, Eve and Amy. The definition of marriage is one man and one woman because this is how God created marriage.
Can you show me where God gave polygyny explicit moral approval?
1st Timothy 3:2 Elders and Deacons are to be husbands of one wife, so obviously there are problems with polygyny if it keeps a man from assuming leadership.

God claimed to be the husband of two wives (Israel and Judah). See Jeremiah 3 and Ezekiel 23. If God did it how can you claim it’s morally wrong? In 2nd Samuel 12:8 God took credit for giving David his 8 wives and said He would have given him more if that hadn’t been enough. Obviously 8 wives is not “multiplying” wives and God was pointing out that the multiple wives were a good thing and I’d call that explicit moral approval.

In 1st Timothy 3:2 the word translated as “one” is “mia” and it can mean “first,” “one,” or “a”. (article adjective) — and is used elsewhere by Paul in those ways. Let’s see how this works: “The [bishop, elder, overseer] should be… the husband of his first wife.” (or, “a wife”, if you prefer. Both are better, or at LEAST equally good, renderings.) There is another textual argument but there isn’t much point in making it.

Show me where God established or commanded polygyny

God established marriage (with no regard to the number of wives) at Genesis 2:24 when God gave the man the authority to initiated marriage but didn’t limit the man to one wife. God commanded polygyny at Deuteronomy 25:5-20 in the law of the Levirate (childless wife to marry her husband’s brother if her husband dies in order to carry on his name).

Based on that exegesis this is the challenge he was responding to:

Either show me where God said sexual contact between wives married to the same man is sin, or show me your delegation of authority that allows you to arbitrarily step into another mans’ family and declare something to be a sin when God didn’t.

Again, this was his response:

“I believe what I have been taught, that all homosex is sin. Attacking Artisinal Toad’s position cannot be made by showing a prohibition against woman-woman sex as no verse does so.

The question then becomes, how do I make a Biblical case that it is sin absent such a verse ?“

He also put out a call for help, saying

“I [am not] trained in Scripture. I am a laity, doing my job. If there is anybody of the faith, who has the training and intellect to lead this battle I appeal to them to step forward”

“Artisanal Toad’s argument is, as I have stated previously, attractive and coherent within the mano-sphere. It does nothing less than invite lost souls into a false doctrine under the label of Christianity. Like all sin, it will be tempting and attractive.”

He admits there is no passage anywhere in Scripture that prohibits or condemns female-female sexual activity, then ignores Romans 4:15“Where there is no law there is no violation” and Romans 5:13“there is no sin imputed when there is no law” and then calls it a “false doctrine” and says “like all sin, it will be tempting and attractive.” This is a guy who cannot let go of the false tradition he’s been taught all his life. He calls polygyny a sin and defends monogamy even though he knows it’s a losing proposition for men. Why? Because tradition? I wonder.

So, I ask the question: why do men fight and white knight so hard over this subject? Why is the idea of two or three naked women enjoying group sex with their husband so frightening? I made one off-hand comment about the popularity of lesbian porn and the screeching was amazing. I was called a serpent, trickster, degenerate, tempter, a vile reptile, satan, the dark one, a heretic; I was accused of leading my brothers into sin, of being corrupt, of wallowing in sin, of desiring only the pleasures of the flesh… it was amazing.

On top of that it seems like this issue brings out the blue-pill, gamma, churchian white knights in droves. Why? Because it destroys their blue-pill gamma worldview? Just like this kid I’ve been arguing with, he already knows he’s wrong but he can’t allow himself to admit it. Why would an otherwise bright and very logical man act this way?

Oh- and he’s quite sure the sweet little wives are being violated in bed, commanded by a husband acting like Caesar who makes them do that which is against God’s will for their lives; convinced they hate every second of it. He truly believes they need to be rescued and it is the duty of the church to step into their marriage and straighten things out.

Why do so many Christian men white knight so hard over this? Maybe for some of them it’s baggage from the past, but I’m about convinced a man’s reaction to polygyny (and all the possibilities available with multiple wives) is a good indicator of his socio-sexual rank.

From alphas and a lot of betas there’s no objection in the practical sense and the benefits are obvious and substantial, but people just don’t do that. These guys play by the rules and doing something like this could threaten their position, so they’ve either got the balls to agree and maybe even go for it, or they shrug their shoulders and say “I’m OK with what I’ve got. If we get divorced I’ll think about it.”

From the lower betas and high deltas a lot of suspicion and logical concerns come to the surface but these can be dealt with and if they’re aware these guys already know they’re prime candidates for divorce court drama. Then come the questions. Lots of them. After that it’s frame and state control with a reasonable level of game. Most of the guys I know with multiple wives started out as lower beta or mid to high delta. The structure makes them situational alpha. The rest (unsurprisingly) are sigmas. I have yet to meet a guy I’d call a serious alpha with more than one wife.

From the lower deltas, gammas and omegas, I get fear, loathing and hatred. They will stop at nothing to find an objection or reason why monogamy must be enforced. I’m fairly sure at least some of them see the acceptance of polygyny as the final nail in the coffin that forever imprisons their hopes of finding a wife.

Acceptance of polygyny would change the entire SMP and MMP landscape for both men and women but especially for men. Let’s say you’ve got a tall, reasonably good looking, successful guy that marries a solid 8.5 beauty. He’s feeling like he’s at the top of the game until he meets an average-looking guy with three wives going from 6.5 to 7.5. And… wow. They’re feminine, sweet and submissive. When he tells them to do something (hey- why doesn’t he ever be gentle and just ask them?) they smile and do it. Immediately. Then he notices his wife is treating their husband differently and after a while starts being deferential, almost submissive! He’s thinking “Why is she acting that way toward him but not me?”

Anybody that understands game knows the answer. Multiple wives is massive pre-selection bias and a huge demonstration of high value. He comes across as alpha and she’s attracted. She begins to mimic the behavior of his wives (deferential, submissive, obedient) to fit in with the herd and doesn’t realize what she’s doing (competing for his attention). Later, alone with hubby, she isn’t as attracted to him, throws a few shit tests his way and he picks up on that too.

How does that make him feel? Like he just met a serious threat that needs to be destroyed. How much more so the gamma?

Nobody Understands The Gay Marriage Ruling

September 6, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad4 Comments

On a conservative discussion forum there were a few Christians getting worked up into a lather about refusing to do a gay marriage. One of the resident trolls responded with this:

The ruling, simply put for other ass clowns from this imaginary religion, states that same sex marriage is legal throughtout [sic] the United States. Nowhere does it state that pastors are being forced to marry same sex couples or hetrosexual [sic] couples.

In this case the troll proved that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, because the sodomite* marriage issue will have a tremendous impact on the churches for a variety of reasons.

Unfortunately, virtually all Christians are clueless about this subject. If they did some research on the Faith Baptist Church of Louisville, Nebraska** they’d learn what the issue actually is. Ask yourself: what do the churches and that famously fined bakery have in common? No, it isn’t their religious faith, it’s the fact they’re all incorporated. You may want to read Hale v Henkel and learn what a corporation’s responsibility to the state is:

“…the corporation is a creature of the State. It is presumed to be incorporated for the benefit of the public. It receives certain special privileges and franchises, and holds them subject to the laws of the State and the limitations of its charter. Its powers are limited by law. It can make no contract not authorized by its charter. Its rights to act as a corporation are only preserved to it so long as it obeys the laws of its creation.“

That isn’t dicta and the Hale case has been cited in over 1600 other rulings.

Other than Amish, Mennonite, some Missionary Baptist and some Brethren Fellowships, I don’t know of any so-called churches in the US that are not incorporated. They may call themselves churches (a DBA name), but in reality they are corporations. The first thing that happens if they get hauled into court is the judge takes notice they’re a corporation and all the stuff like the Bible, doctrine and articles of faith goes out the window. The decision is made based solely on the State Code, which says the employees of the corporation are forbidden to discriminate. Does the corporation provide marital services to heterosexual couples? Yes? Then they are required to not discriminate and marry homosexuals if they show up with a marriage license. Does the corporation bake wedding cakes for heterosexuals? Then it has to bake wedding cakes for sodomites or suffer the penalties for violating the state laws.

The next problem is almost no-one understands what marriage is or how it really works. For anyone who wonders what the big deal about marriage licenses is, I suggest they find a Blacks Law Dictionary and look up the word “license.” A license is:

The permission granted by competent authority to exercise a certain privilege that, without such authorization, would constitute an illegal act, a trespass or a tort.

What does that mean? Simple: if you have to get a license (permission) then you don’t have the right to do the thing you had to get a license for. Now with that in mind, let’s check the definition of “Marriage License.”

“License or permission granted by public authority to persons who intend to intermarry.”

It turns out a marriage license is a *special* permission granted for persons who desire to intermarry. Well, first is sounds like we don’t have the right to get married… but wait; what does “intermarry” mean? We can’t find “intermarry” but there is a listing for “intermarriage.” It says “See: Miscegenation.” Following the instructions we look up Miscegenation and discover it’s defined as the mixing of the races, as between a white and a negro. So, we find that a marriage license is a special license issued for the purpose of mixing the races. But if you’re of the same race as your wife, does that mean you don’t need a marriage license? Well, it’s complicated, but in general the answer is no, you don’t, but it has nothing to do with miscegenation.

But isn’t there a state law requiring a marriage license for those who intend to marry?

Well, yes, every state has one of those laws, but as I said, it’s complicated. The question is who the law applies to. Does it apply (by definition) only to those who desire miscegenation, or (as the laws state) to everyone? Or are there other issues involved? Let’s see… In 1877 the Supreme Court held in Meister v Moore that:

“A statute may declare that no marriages shall be valid unless they are solemnized in a prescribed manner, but such an enactment is a very different thing from a law requiring all marriages to be entered into in the presence of a magistrate or a clergyman or that it be preceded by a license, or publication of banns, or be attested by witnesses. Such formal provisions may be construed as merely directory, instead of being treated as destructive of a common law right to form the marriage relation by words of present assent.

…marriage is a thing of common right“

Did you see that last part? Marriage is a right, therefore you don’t need a marriage license. Open your legal dictionary and look up “directory.”

“Directory: A provision in a statute, rule of procedure, or the like, that is a mere direction or instruction of no obligatory force and involves no invalidating consequence for its disregard, as opposed to an imperative or mandatory provision, which must be followed.”

How about that- it turns out the law requiring a marriage license is nothing more than a polite suggestion. There have been maybe a half-dozen cases before the Supreme Court since then that dealt with marriage in one way or another, but that ruling has never been overturned. In 1967 Loving v Virginia, (striking down the Virginia law banning inter-racial marriage) held that

“Marriage is one of the “basic civil rights of man,” fundamental to our very existence and survival.“

The problem is the church invaded the marriage in the late dark ages to the point of regulating the marital bed. Their control of marriage fell apart with the protestant reformation and was immediately seized by the state. So strongly does the state feel about this aspect of its police powers, observe the holding of Maynard v Hill (1888):

It is also to be observed that while marriage is often termed by text writers and in decisions of courts as a civil contract, generally to indicate that it must be founded upon the agreement of the parties, and does not require any religious ceremony for its solemnization, it is something more than a mere contract. The consent of the parties is, of course, essential to its existence, but when the contract to marry is executed by the marriage, a relation between the parties is created which they cannot change. Other contracts may be modified, restricted, or enlarged, or entirely released upon the consent of the parties. Not so with marriage. The relation once formed, the law steps in and holds the parties to various obligations and liabilities. It is an institution in the maintenance of which in its purity the public is deeply interested, for it is the foundation of the family and of society, without which there would be neither civilization nor progress. (Emphasis added)

You see, marriage existed long antecedent to the creation of the State. Like it or not, the record says God created lawful marriage and lawful marriage is regulated by God; therefore, for those who have the right to get married under God’s law marriage is a fundamental right. But, what about those who don’t have the right to marry under God’s law (mixing of the races or homosexuals)? That’s the purpose of the marriage license: to provide permission to do something that would otherwise be unlawful. The state is saying “come to me and I’ll be your god, I’ll give you the permission you seek***, but I’ll also be a party to this marriage and gain an equitable interest in all assets of the marriage. In fact, we’ve passed a law requiring you to get a license in order to marry.”

This is a matter of law and jurisdiction. Simply put, the creator has the right to govern its creation. God created lawful marriage and granted to the man the authority to initiate marriage by right (Genesis 2:24), provided His authority structure in marriage (Ephesians 5:22-24) and regulated marriage (1st Corinthians 7:1-40; 1st Peter 3:1-7; Ephesians 5:22-33; Deuteronomy 21:15-16, 24:1-4, 25:5-20; Exodus 21:10; Leviticus 18:18, 20:14; Matthew 5:32-33 and many others). In general God claims to be a party to the covenant entity that is marriage. God’s Word does not change no matter when or where you live.

The state created legal marriage, requiring a license to marry, regulates the marriage through statutes which may be changed at the whim of the legislature and claims to be a party to the marriage and thereby gain an equitable interest in all assets of the marriage. The laws of the various states differ depending which state you live in but all states make it insanely easy to destroy the family with divorce for any or no reason at all.

Which one would you want? For a Christian this should be a no-brainer, but they are betrayed by their own leaders who insist they get a marriage license. Why? For two reasons. The first is their ignorance of the law and history of marriage licenses. The second (probably more important) is while the law requiring a couple to get a license is directory, the law punishing anyone authorized to solemnize a marriage if they solemnize a marriage without a license is imperative. That is, the pastor will get fined.

The ruling in Meister v Moore didn’t strike down marriage license schemes as unconstitutional, they ruled such laws were “merely directory.” So, it’s still a law but the State isn’t required to tell anybody it’s a special law and no penalties can be applied for disobeying such a law. In other words, it’s a scam designed to gain control of marriage and thereby control the population. The exact same thing the church was doing over a thousand years ago.

Why is that important? Because anyone can get married with a signed contract of marriage, by right, without the permission of the state and have a lawful marriage. Even in States that have outlawed common law marriage, they cannot outlaw a fundamental right. That means the state does not become a party to the marriage, nor do they get an equitable interest in the children or any other asset of the marriage.

The other side of the coin is that if someone is in possession of a state issued license, the legality of what they’re doing cannot be questioned. Having given its permission, who are the creatures of the state to refuse to do their creators bidding?

To get back to the point, all these incorporated not-for-profit business entities that provide services to the general public of a religious nature will most certainly be required to obey the law of their creator, the state. One of those laws is they are not to discriminate. That is, if they’re open to the public they are required to provide their services to all of the public (within reason). A restaurant is not discriminating against any particular class of persons if it requires a shirt and shoes for entry, because it’s a condition that can be remedied. A bar is not discriminating if it requires its patrons to be at least 21 years of age, because they are required to do so by law. But the day you hang a sign up that says “Straights Only” or “Whites Only” then you’ve got yourself a real problem.

Who creates a not for profit corporation? The state.
Who owns a not for profit corporation? The state.
Who regulates a not for profit corporation? The state.

The people spending time together on Sunday in that building with a steeple on it may think they’re a church and believe that Jesus Christ is their Creator and Head, but in reality their creator is the state and the state owns every asset the business has because they voluntarily incorporated. Because the state is their creator and regulator, they either obey the law or get punished with either fines and/or jailed on a civil contempt charge.** In fact, for egregious offenses the state could revoke the charter of the corporation and seize everything. If they were a real church they could stand on the law of their Creator and cheerfully, lawfully refuse to perform a gay marriage. ****

I believe, as a conservative Christian, that homosexuals demanding to be married in a church is a very good thing because it exposes the underlying hypocrisy and idolatry of the church that has incorporated in order to participate in commerce. The fact is, bank accounts, checks, credit cards, loans and things like that are all aspects of government regulated commerce. Churches are not required to use or receive such negotiable instruments, but they want to. I won’t even start with the issue of payroll taxes, but I will say the churches voluntarily gave up their position of power and bowed down to Caesar with the act of incorporation. Why? For convenience.

That act of bowing down to the state will now come back to haunt them. Yes, even the most conservative of churches could be forced to perform a sodomite wedding. Does the church marry people in the main sanctuary? Then they won’t be able to shuffle them off to a “wedding chapel” to keep them out of the worship center. Anybody with a brain has to realize the reason they’d want to be married in a conservative church.

What if, after pronouncing them married, the couple had planned to do something other than kiss each other? Think of the things you’d see at a gay pride parade. I guarantee you that certain very conservative churches will have homosexual couples demanding to be married there, if for no other reason than to be legally allowed to desecrate the sanctuary.

What the church leadership and laity don’t realize or don’t want to admit is their entire church has already been desecrated through the voluntary act of incorporation. Unlike the bogus law requiring a marriage license, there is no law requiring churches to incorporate or register as an IRS 501 (c) 3 “church organization.” And since I brought it up, the power is conferred to the state with incorporation, the 501 (c) 3 status is simply another added level of control.

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* I specifically said “sodomites” to differentiate men from women. Leviticus 18:22-23 is very specific, prohibiting male-male sex, male-animal sex and female-animal sex. Nothing in the bible forbids whatever it is that the girls do when they get in bed together, which brings in Romans 4:15 and 5:13: it’s not a sin. That pulls in Deuteronomy 4:2 and 12:32, which means Paul neither prohibited or condemned lesbians in Romans 1:26. God’s design for marriage requires a man, so from a Biblical perspective there would be nothing unlawful about a couple of women getting married to the same guy… but polygyny is a different subject for a different day.

** Google the Faith Baptist Church of Louisville Nebraska (look for the testimony of Dr. Everett Ramsey). In their case the issue was operating a private (religious) school but the subject of a corporations responsibility to obey state laws is the same as with Gay Marriage. One of the key points in that case is they were years into the case and Pastor Ramsey had been jailed repeatedly (his wife and daughter fled to another state to avoid warrants for their arrest) before anyone told him it was because they were a corporation.

Civil contempt sentences typically run from 30 to 90 days. However, the concept of civil contempt is it’s a coercive measure to get the individual to comply with the order of the court. As soon as they comply (or agree to comply) they get out. In other words, they hold the keys to their own freedom. But, what if the individual cannot comply but at the same time cannot prove they can’t comply? That’s a problem. The longest incarceration for contempt I know of was Beatty Chadwick, who was incarcerated for 14 years. Think about that. Is your faith that strong, you corporate officers who have bowed down to Caesar and blasphemed the name of Christ? John Bunyan spent 12 years in jail because he refused to stop preaching.

*** Ahhhh, yes. If a man and a woman shack up for a year or two, even though they never got married the woman can drag the man into family court. The court can “deem” the couple to have been married and proceed to divorce-rape him. Up until now, homosexuals were exempt from this treatment because homosexual marriage was contrary to public policy. In other words, there was no way for a court to recognize such an arrangement as a marriage… thus there could be no divorce, no dividing of assets, no alimony. The homosexuals just got what they wanted and the marriage rules now apply to their unions.

They’re about to experience a whole new way of getting screwed. The first case of a spousal support demand has already been filed by a woman against her former lesbian partner. More will come. Much more. It won’t just be the torrent of tears from whichever one gets raped by the system, because as the statistics reliably show us, those people have a high tendency for violence and a low degree of impulse control. In fact, family court could become a quality entertainment venue as these cases start getting on the docket.

And the States will get screwed as well. Let’s say that close to death a very wealthy man marries his son. When father dies there is no inheritance tax because by law it passes to the spouse, who is free to remarry. Instant inter-generational transfer of wealth, tax free. Lather, rinse and repeat. This might be tricky due to incest rules, but a same-sex union cannot produce offspring so I’m sure some judge will rule that they shouldn’t apply to a gay marriage. Father-daughter or Mother-son could be handled by somebody claiming to have gone Jenner. Call it the homoheritance loophole.

Think about it. Most wealthy individuals put a lot of hard work into earning their money and they hate handing it over to the government. If the choice is between quietly doing a gay wedding with their chosen heir or having said heir write an obscene check to the government, does anyone doubt this will become a recommended estate planning tool?

**** I find it hard to believe that people like Franklin Graham, son of the late Billy Graham, are so ignorant as to not understand this issue. Recently Franklin tweeted

“Long before our government came into existence, marriage was created by the One who created man and woman Almighty God and His decisions are not subject to review or revision by any manmade court.

“God gave us marriage. Period. And God doesn’t change his mind,” Graham told Fox Nation. “If pastors are going to be forced to provide marriage services for gay couples, I’m not going to do it,”

The likelihood of someone like Franklin Graham being jailed for contempt is extremely small, if for no other reason that his ministries don’t officiate weddings. The problem is he encourages other pastors to stand in the middle of the target in order to get blasted instead of helping his fellow pastors understand how to avoid it completely.

I predict this will be a source of great amusement for years to come as the unintended consequences work their way through the system. Enjoy the decline folks!

Advice To A Young Man, Part II

June 17, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad5 Comments

It’s time to talk about women. But not the kind of talk you’re thinking of. The very first thing you must keep in mind with respect to women is the curse. We will discuss female hypergamy and Game, but you need to understand where it comes from. In Genesis 3:16 we find the woman cursed by God:

To the woman He said,
“I will greatly multiply
Your pain in childbirth,
In pain you will bring forth children;
Yet your desire will be for your husband,
And he will rule over you.”

This passage has been the subject of much argument within the church. It’s pretty straightforward until you get to the word that’s translated as “desire.” The problem is that word is only used three times in all of Scripture. The first is in the passage quoted above, the second is in Genesis 4:7

If you do well, will not your countenance be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its desire is for you, but you must master it.”

Obviously, in that passage the meaning of the word desire is a desire to control or to conquer. The only other use of the word is in the Song of Solomon 7:10, in which the word desire is clearly used to mean sexual desire.

“I am my beloved’s, a nd his desire is for me.

You can guess what happened, right? Everybody staked out a position on the word desire as meaning either a desire to control or a sexual desire. The problem is this isn’t an either-or choice. The observed nature of women (the study of which is known as Game) demonstrates that the definition isn’t an either-or choice, it’s both. This is where female hypergamy comes from and yes, All Women Are Like That (AWALT) to one extent or another because all women are daughters of Eve and God cursed all of them. .

Observe how it works. First, the woman wants to confirm your fitness so she tests you. These tests are commonly known as “shit tests” or “fitness tests.” If she can control you then you’ve failed the test. If you can control her you pass the test and demonstrate your fitness to rule her (and he shall rule over you), thus her desire then becomes sexual. Feminism seeks to deny this and you will see many otherwise reliable Christian men deny the effect of Game or condemn it as immoral. Don’t listen to them. Instead, look at what God said and compare it to the observation data of the way women act.

All of the things I spoke of in the first post in this series are things that will enhance your attractiveness to women, but the key is to first understand the nature of women. Get ready, because one of the foundational Red Pill truths is all women really are like that. Your mother, your sister, your girlfriend or your wife. AWALT. We find this first in the curse and later the wisest man who ever lived had this to say on the subject (Ecclesiastes 7:28):

while I was still searching but not finding– I found one upright man among a thousand, but not one upright woman among them all.

Before I get the howls of outrage from the Christians out there, I am speaking of the nature of women. Anyone who opens their eyes and looks around can see that becoming a Christian doesn’t make the curse go away any more than it makes a deflowered slut suddenly becomes a virgin again. It is wise to understand the nature of women before making a commitment because the second biggest commitment you can possibly make is choosing a wife (the biggest is choosing to commit yourself to the Lord). Proverbs 18:22 says:

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

Christian women will constantly refer to the “Proverbs 31 Woman” while quickly skipping over the first part of the description. “An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.” In other words, an excellent wife is exceedingly rare. Scripture also contains many warnings about women, such as this from Proverbs 25:24.

It is better to live in a corner of the roof t han in a house shared with a contentious woman.

And Proverbs 30:20…

This is the way of an adulterous woman:
She eats and wipes her mouth,
And says, “I have done no wrong.”

The big takeaway is you were commanded to seek wisdom and because of the way women are (AWALT), you’d better have a lot of wisdom and understanding when you go in that direction. OK? And I’m writing this to you because you aren’t ready yet. There are many facets to this, but you have plenty of time. If you work at it you’ll be able to make a wise decision when the time comes. That decision might be to forget about women completely because they’re too much of a risk. Some guys can, some can’t. You might choose to take the risk of marriage in one form or another, or you might choose a more informal relationship.

You really need to read “Christian Dating Foreplay” in order to understand what you must be willing to do. Contrary to everything you’ve ever been taught, sex is not the high and holy end-all and be-all that churchians make it out to be. You want sex? Read the lined post and learn what the rules really are. Once you’ve done that, the advice below is worth thinking about.

For those who aren’t Christians, keep in mind that having sex with women poses enormous risks to your future and your finances. That said, here are a few pieces of advice if you simply can’t keep your pecker in your pants:

Always wrap it with your condom, not hers. Never believe her if she says she’s got the birth control covered or says she wants to go raw because she has an allergy to latex. When you get done, flush it.
Avoid married women and those with a boyfriend like the plague. Women with something to lose are far more likely to hit you with a false rape charge if their relationship is threatened.
Always be filming. Get some good hidden digital video recorders and always film sexual encounters. If you spend the night together, take her out to breakfast at a restaurant with security cameras and pay with plastic. Be warm and affectionate while having breakfast. Don’t ever share the video, let anyone else watch it or even tell anyone you do it. Filming a sexual encounter without telling your partner may or may not be illegal, but wouldn’t you rather be charged with illegal filming rather than rape? Keep the video forever. You can be falsely accused of rape years after the fact.
It’s better if she dumps you when it comes time to ending a long term relationship. You can let her “catch” you in the act of banging one of her friends, or it could be as simple as salting your place with evidence. Something like earrings on the headboard or the stray pair of panties under the bed will work nicely. When she confronts you, admit it and go hard-core beta on her.
Skip the drama and use a high-quality escort if you can afford it.
Ben Franklin gave some good advice in his essay “In Praise of Older Women.” He said “They don’t swell, they don’t yell, they don’t tell and they’re eternally grateful.”
Be acquainted with a good lawyer and have an agreement that they’ll represent you if you ever have any problems. Specifically, a criminal defense attorney. I know a nice CD attorney who has a simple policy: There is a substantial discount on the fees if you refuse to answer any questions without the attorney present.

That should be plenty to think about, and remember: All Women Really Are Like That.

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Advice For A Young Man

May 31, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad1 Comment

I’ll start with two passages from Chapter 24 of the book of Proverbs:

By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established and by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

Prepare your work outside and make it ready for yourself in the field; afterwards, then, build your house.

You’ve just graduated from High School and you’re thinking about your future. That’s a good thing. Ironically you’re at an age when no reasonable person would expect you to be able to make critical decisions about your future, yet you will be making many such critical decisions. The two passages above are time tested pearls of wisdom you should pay attention to.

The Bible tells us that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. That may sound preachy, but in reality we’re talking about morality. Wisdom and understanding are what will build and establish your house. In this case we are not talking about your home, but rather your family and legacy. As you leave your parents home and go out on your own, you will have innumerable opportunities to commit outrageous acts of foolishness and stupidity. Your ability to avoid doing so (or not) will demonstrate to the world whether you are wise or a fool.

You are about to enter your third decade of life and it is the most critical decade of your life. What you do and the decisions you make while in your twenties will have a tremendous impact on the rest of your life. The decisions you make right now will set you on a course that will gradually be more and more difficult to deviate from, so let’s look at a few of these areas.

Education. The old rules said that if you made good grades, got a degree and kept your nose clean you’d get a decent job and be a success. It may have worked for your grandfather’s generation and did work for your great-grandfather’s generation but that attitude is now a prescription for economic suicide. You must consider the basics: No matter what you do in life you must either produce a product or provide a service that the public is willing to pay for. If you can figure that out it’s called a business. If you can’t then you’ll need to work for somebody else who did figure out how to do it. That’s called a job.

There are problems with earning a living and among the worst of these problems is credentialism. Think of the building trades, such as carpentry, plumbing, masonry, electrical work, HVAC and general contracting. Two generations ago it was possible to hang out your shingle in most places and obtain work in one of these trades without getting a license. There were unions that had apprenticeship programs but there were also informal apprenticeship programs called “jobs” in which experienced tradesmen hired young men and paid them for their labor as they taught them the trade. Today, you cannot legally do such work in the vast majority of places without a license.

If you wanted to be a barber you’d discover that you are required to go to barber college and obtain a license in order to cut somebody’s hair. But what if you’re personable and have some sales ability? You can sell used cars but if you really want commissions then real estate is what you should be selling. That’s where you discover you’ll have to go to several years of college to get credentialed and then take a board exam in order to legally be able to connect a willing buyer and seller of real estate.

The point is that it’s difficult to rapidly move from one area to another in today’s economy unless you have some background training and credentials first, which brings us back to education and the subject of college. By all means, get a college degree, but unless you’re getting a degree in STEM, do it online.

Understand the dirty little secrets about college: Colleges do not sell education, they sell degree programs and they do not care about your success or whether you choose widely. They want your money. Unless you go to an Ivy League school nobody cares where you went to college. Unless you’re applying for grad school or applying for work in a STEM environment, nobody cares what your GPA was or even what your major was. A large number of jobs require a bachelors degree, but all they want to see is evidence that you finished your degree. Therefore, as a general credential, the goal should be to get the degree with a minimum expenditure of both money and time while maximizing your other opportunities.

It is possible to get a bachelors degree online from an accredited college for less than $10,000 while living at home and holding down a part-time job. Your part-time job should focus on sales for several reasons, not least of which is that if you can develop the skills of a good salesman you’ll almost always be able to find work. However, don’t think of it as a job, but rather an extension of your education in which you’re being paid to go to school. You are beginning the process of being an adult man and you must be mission oriented. Your primary mission is to be successful.

Keep in mind that you are your primary product and whether you have a business of your own (which should really be your goal) or work for someone else, you will be selling yourself for the rest of your life. You should have discovered by now that being attractive is an advantage. Studies show that on average people who have a pleasing appearance get paid more than people who don’t. In other words, how you look and how you dress is an important factor in your ability to succeed.

First, you need the bedrock ability to defend yourself. You should not be starting fights, but if somebody starts a fight with you you’d better be able to end it. If you are well-trained and know that you can handle yourself in a physical altercation, not only will your confidence be sky-high but you’ll also be able to walk away with dignity where someone with less confidence would get into a stupid fight. Trust me- most fights are stupid. But as you train, you’ll find that your strength is critical. The stronger you are the harder you can punch and kick and the more damage you can take before you fold up. The solution is strength training, which not only effects how well you can fight but also has a major impact on how you look.

When you can walk into a social gathering or a business meeting and look around the room and realize you can take any man there… your self-confidence will be sky-high. You won’t be able to conceal it. However, if you act in a humble and respectful manner you will win the admiration of many of those there. And some of them will hate you, but training isn’t enough. You need to look good too.

Lift weights and develop a strong, masculine physique. You can’t do anything about your height, but you can develop broad shoulders, muscular arms and chest and keep your bodyfat at a low enough level that your abs are visible. This is more important than you might think. If you develop the habit of hitting the gym on a regular basis and work hard to sculpt your body, it will take you about three to four years to pack on 30 to 50 pounds of muscle. Once you get the bulk, everything else is maintenance and fine-tuning, but you will have accomplished several things:

First, you’ll have developed the habit of regular heavy physical exercise. That habit, once developed, will be much easier to continue than begin at some point years down the road. Second, you’ll have made major changes to your body in many ways. Your testosterone level is currently at its peak and your ability to build muscle mass is likewise at its peak. The result of putting on that muscle will keep your testosterone level higher than it would normally be for decades to come. And that’s a good thing. You’ll also be going through a period of several years in which your body is growing and your wardrobe won’t fit for very long. Better to do this young while you can mostly just wear casual clothes.

Speaking of clothes, you must learn to dress well and develop a personal style that complements your body and features. Purchase quality clothes and have them tailored to your physique. This is important because if you can recognize quality clothing (the cut, cloth and construction) you can obtain a quality wardrobe from Goodwill at a very low cost even after having it tailored to you. If you’re in good shape you’ll discover that you can’t purchase a suit off the rack and have it look good because the standard drop on a suit is six inches and the so-called ‘athletic cut’ is an eight inch drop. The drop is the difference between the chest size and the waist size. I have a 44 inch chest and a 30 inch waist, which means even with an athletic cut suit I have to have the pants taken in six inches. That usually means the pants have to be re-cut, which is expensive. The alternative is to order the suit to your specific sizes and have minor alterations made to fit it to you.

That’s the price of looking good, but think about it. You’ll spend a lot of time, sweat and energy making your body look good and it will behoove you to have your clothes tailored to your body to look as good as you can.

If you spend the next seven years of your life focused on developing yourself in education, marketable skills (not the same thing), personal appearance and personality you’ll be in a good position to start working your fields and making the other preparations necessary to start building your house. In the next post I’ll be covering how to avoid some serious pitfalls that you’ll encounter along the way to success.

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May 19, 2015March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad2 Comments

All you have to do is get hurt badly enough that you need help to take care of stuff you’d normally be able to take care of on your own. Like not being able to walk without crutches, which means you can’t so much as carry a cup of coffee with you. This was 14 days post-injury when the swelling had gone down enough for surgery.

Obviously it needed some work. First came almost 5 hours of surgery and then months of wearing a cast. And now I get to be “special” for TSA with all the metal in me.

Perceived weakness = instant increase in level of contempt from everyone except other men. Especially men who know what it’s like to be injured. Women don’t have empathy for men, they only want to see performance.

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