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Government Plays Dread Game: EBT System Shut Down

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There is one hot button guaranteed to send people into a panic, and it happened yesterday: in over 17 States, EBT cards stopped working. The word quickly went viral with people going into full panic mode.
Got a call from a brother who lives in “the hood” asking for advice. I told him to make sure his car had a full tank of gas and then just wait and see. He has plenty of buddies that are armed to the teeth, so he has places to go if it comes to it, but this is just way too suspicious for me. This is budget stalemate dread game that’s just been taken to the next level.
I’m sure some will disagree, but I wouldn’t be surprised if some congress-critturs suddenly saw the light and became born again believers in spending money. Just sayin…

Bottom Fishing

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There have been some fascinating posts over at Sunshine Mary’s blog in recent weeks that have discussed a number of serious issues with respect to marriage, the sexual market place and the marriage market place.
There was a time in the not-too-distant past in which a young woman went to college with the idea that she’d graduate with a Bachelors degree and score a Mrs. degree at the same time. In doing so, she wasn’t really marrying a guy with such a high value, she was marrying a guy with high potential. It was a calculated investment.
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Rollo’s graph of Sexual Market Values for men and women demonstrates this quite well. Mens’ SMV peaks much later than the women’s SMV, which is why when a couple marries in their twenties (the way it used to be) the man is getting his bride at her highest value but she’s investing in his potential SMV.

Sexual Market Values for Men and Women
It has been pointed out repeatedly that all a woman has to do is take care of herself and life will be much easier for her. Men are attracted to youth, beauty, chastity, femininity and submission. Not necessarily in that order, but those are the high points. Keep in mind that the Sexual Market Value of a woman is almost completely appearance based. Her Marriage Market Value incorporates a lot of other things and the Christian Marriage Market is even more nuanced.
All a Christian woman really has to do to keep her husband happy is maintain her appearance (don’t get fat), don’t say no to sex and obey him. It really is that simple but rare is the Christian wife who is willing to make a commitment to do those three things.
In fact, a Christian man needs to look at the MMV of a Christian woman and make a hard assessment based on those three factors first, also taking into account her fitness for marriage (N-Count, level of feminist infection, level of laziness, family history, etc.) in order to make a reasonably wise decision. However, underlying all those issues is still going to be her beauty. Since that’s a given, perhaps men need to consider making speculative investments in women. Just as women might marry a man based on his potential, I float the idea of bottom fishing for those jewels in the rough that are being passed over.
What am I talking about? Here are three examples:
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From a three to a solid seven. Amazing.
Dramatic Weight Loss

All she needs to do now is work on the house-keeping skills…
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The Boob-Job didn’t hurt the proportions, did it?
These girls made their transformations on their own for their own reasons. Maybe you wouldn’t have given the “before” version of these women a second glance, but I know very few men who wouldn’t be interested in the “after” version of any of these women.
Let’s say you met a woman who resembled the before version of any of these women, but was otherwise sweet, gentle, kind, loving and a virgin. Have the “submission” talk with her and find out exactly how she feels about the Biblical command to wives to submit to their husbands. If she makes the right noises and there’s some corroborating evidence such as a good relationship with her father, offer to train her.
It would require spending a lot of time with her, adjusting her diet and exercising with her, going to the grocery store and implementing some iron discipline in her life, but the end result will be a genuine change for the better for her. This kind of project accomplishes several other important tasks: First, it establishes you as the authority and requires that she submit to you. For the same reason women are often attracted to their bosses, that will build her attraction to you. Second, you will get her in the habit of obeying you even if she doesn’t understand why. Third, as the weight comes off she will feel better about herself and about the guy who made it happen. She will have a reason to demonstrate that quality so lacking in American women: gratitude.
The process of training her will give you plenty of opportunities to learn all about her, to lead her and discover whether she really is marriage material for you. If she is, marry her. You’ll have earned it. If not, set her free and keep looking. There is one danger: arrogance. Once they look better, they will start getting the kind of attention they’ve always wanted and it may go to their heads. The Hamster never goes away.
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The Hamster will want to break free. If you see that happen, softly next her. No need for nuclear confrontations, just give her a soft next. If that doesn’t bring her back in line, she wasn’t worth it so hard next her and find someone else.
Obviously, this plan only works if you are the man who has already demonstrated the discipline of bringing your own body and life under control. You have to walk the talk.

On Being Independent

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I had an epic conversation with one of my brothers yesterday in which we discussed the declining economy, the disaster that is the current welfare state, the impossibility that things can continue as they are and the coming devolution/destruction of life as we know it. JayMan has a great post about this (PDF) on his blog. Pay special attention to his first graphic on cycles of violence. I believe the racial component isn’t reflective of reality because the crime reporting methodologies have been bowdlerized into hiding the incidence of racial violence (unless it’s white against black). The level of racial violence should be much higher than is reflected in that graphic, but that’s my only quibble.
This brother is a top-tier computer programmer with an enviable skillset, making in excess of $100k a year working for a company that has over 90% of the market share for their product, world-wide. If he wanted to he could live in any of a half-dozen different countries where they have offices but he chooses to live in the city where the headquarters is. His choice, I guess politics makes a difference.
His idea for the future was 3-D printing and home-based manufacturing. He spun a great line about how the material cost was cheap and it’s possible to manufacture things that people want and sell them for a profit while keeping the cost below market value. I listened to him wax eloquent for over an hour. Finally, I disagreed. The reason I disagreed is that in a declining or depressed economy people don’t have money to buy toys, they buy necessities. What necessities can be manufactured with a 3-D printer? If you find a few good items to make, how many can you sell? How do you get people coming back for more? This is one of the reasons our current economy is floundering: what do people really need at this point? The market for toys is really, really depressed.

People Pay For Needs And Addictions

Nobody ever went broke selling things that meet basic needs or addictions. Basic needs are things like food and clothing, but there’s an excess of clothing on the market and nobody wants to use a thrift-store business model. Everybody has to have food and in a declining economy, anybody who can provide quality food at a lower price will have all the business they can handle. It’s simply a matter of staying in business long enough to develop a customer base. The customer base is automatically a customer base of repeat customers because food is consumed and there is always a need for more.
Back in 1987, Booker T. Whatley wrote a book called How to Make $100,000 Farming 25 Acres and explained how to market direct to the consumer. He was 30 years ahead of his time. The key today is micro-processor controlled aquaponics, the combination of aqua-farming and hydroponics, a synergy in which the fish remove the excess nutrients and byproducts from the water, cleansing it so that it can go on nourishing the plants. Production of vegetables and fish is the result in a system that uses minimal resources of space and energy. Microprocessors monitor a variety of factors and maintain the system with a minimum of human input.
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Lots of people talk about the collapse that’s coming. Most of them talk about stockpiling guns and ammo. Those are good to have, but better is the ability to produce EXCESS food that can be sold, bartered or used to sustain others who can help produce other things or simply add to your defense capability. Is it worthwhile today? Absolutely. The average suburban homeowner could put up a 200 square-foot greenhouse and produce enough food on a year-round basis to cut their food budget by well over 50%. Combine that with chickens and rabbits and the food bill can be chopped by over 75%. Think about that. We’re talking about hundreds of dollars each month in un-taxable production that is consumed and never leaves the home.
Someone with a few acres could do much, much more. Portable chicken pens that are moved each day allow the chickens to consume bugs and pasturage and cuts the feed expense by 25% or more. The result is healthy, organic free-range chicken at minimal cost. Add a milk cow to that and you’ve got eggs, chicken, milk, cheese and an 800 lb steer to slaughter every year for beef. Modern homesteading has come a long way.
3-D printing may be a great deal, but I think food production is a much better way to go. In fact, in most states there are “farm-sale” laws that state that if a farmer sells produce to customers at the farm, no sales tax is required to be collected. That’s a huge benefit. In addition, if one leaned toward the “grey market” there’s always the possibility of setting up a reflux still and producing ethanol from the waste, over-ripe and damaged produce. That could go in the gas tank or be processed into a very drinkable beverage for the best customers. Of course, Unkle Sugar wants his cut and wants you to get a boatload of permits and licenses… and getting caught with said still will mean felony charges, but some people are willing to take their chances. They’re willing to cater to other addictions as well, perhaps devoting nine or ten square feet of their growing beds for cannabis production. Again, nobody every went broke supplying people’s basic needs and addictions.
This is the sort of operation that can be started on the cheap and built incrementally larger as profits appeared and the customer base grew. With this kind of setup, there’s no need to quit the day job, but if you get laid off or injured and can’t work, at least you won’t have to worry about eating. The income will be helpful as well.
The minimal amount of work required to maintain an aquaponic setup, the minimal cost to get it started and the value of the food produced is so significant that everyone should do this. In an era in which your lettuce travels 1500 miles or more to get to your grocery store, it only makes sense to produce your own food.

Competing In The SMP As A Man

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Appearance is important. Part of your masculine appearance is how lean you are. High levels of testosterone tend to keep a man “lean and mean” while a coat of lard indicates a more feminized man. Your level of body-fat is the key to your appearance and unlike height, you have complete control over your level of muscle and body-fat. bodyfat-men
Steps to becoming more attractive:
One: Add muscle.
Two: Get rid of body-fat.
Three: Focus on having a life worth sharing. The amount of money a man has isn’t as important as his social freedom. Some guys make a lot of money but they’re still wage-slaves at the end of the day. Find your balance between money and freedom.
Four: Learn Game.
The bottom line is that women are attracted to healthy, fit, attractive men. Game only goes so far. Ideally, you’d want to be somewhere between #2 and #3. You want to be rocking a visible six-pack and have a lot of definition. At that low a level of body fat, the angles to your face will stand out and your features will be hard and defined. When it comes to projecting dominance, hard and chiseled features combined with a defined musculature is a definite plus. The older you get, the more of an advantage this is.
A man is in competition with his competition. At forty years old, you aren’t competing for the 18-22 year old college girls, your targets are typically going to be in their late twenties and early thirties. At fifty years old, you’re competing for women in their mid thirties up to their early forties. Think about that for a moment: How many men in their forties have a body that looks like frame #2-4 on the chart above? What percentage? Yet, this is something you have complete control over.
Think women get over the desire to be with a guy who has a hard, sculpted muscular body? No. Losing the body-fat will improve your looks and sharpen your features. Packing on the muscle will help your appearance. Social freedom is the ability to do what you want to do when you want to do it. Believe it or not, that doesn’t take nearly as much money as you’d think.

Feminist Delusions of Beauty

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Heidi Montagg27 year old Heidi Montag in a bikini. Most men would consider her to be a good-looking woman, if not beautiful. It’s often said that a wife’s first duty to her husband is to maintain her beauty. What does that mean? It means “don’t get fat.” To give you an idea about bodyfat on women, let’s use the following chart.
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I have questioned a number of men between the ages of 19 and 50, (N=30) who are all pretty much in agreement that ripped chick #1 isn’t attractive. However, the women in frames #2-4 were all considered very physically attractive. A few of the men considered the woman in frame #5 attractive, but I suspect it’s because the size of her boobs balances out the size of her butt. Proportion has a lot to do with the perception of beauty and a woman with DD-cups can carry some weight on the back end without looking fat, whereas if she was flat-chested she’d be pear-shaped. It’s the same with men- a man with a naturally thick waist has to keep his body-fat low and work on his chest and shoulders in order to get an attractive “V-shape” and even a bit of a spare-tire ruins the effect.
After that, #6 was considered attractive by one guy. The women in the bottom three frames were all universally considered unattractive, with #8 and #9 described as obese, gross and “hideous.”
When asked if any of the women in these frames could be described as a “Big Beautiful Woman” over half stated that there was no way to describe a woman as both big and beautiful. Of the men (uniformly from mid-thirties to mid forties) who could buy into the meme of the BBW, only #6 in the lineup above got tagged as a BBW. The bottom row was simply fat or obese.
The obvious take-away is that men are attracted to beautiful women and anything more than 25% bodyfat on a woman is not consistent with beauty. Granted, this can be stretched out to 30% or maybe a little more for those guys who want some cushion on their woman, but classic beauty like Julianne Hough displays below calls for about 15% to 20% bodyfat.
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Warning! This is a gag and barf warning. One of the photos that follows is about a feminist’s view of herself as being beautiful. Those with a weak constitution and small children should leave now. You have been warned.
Feminism is the religion in which beauty is replaced by ugly and ugly is glorified. Thirty four year old Denise Jolly, from Berkeley California (Berkeley- imagine that) started the “Be Beautiful Project” which involved her taking photos of herself, barely dressed, in public places as a way to affirm her beauty and accept herself. Follow that link at your own risk. This is what Ms. Jolly looks like:
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Speaking to the Daily Mail, she said ”

‘I’ve been socialized my whole life to not like myself because I’m large,’ Denise explained. ‘I’ve been big my whole life, and the likelihood of me being small is an impossibility.’
So instead of striving to be something she wasn’t, Denise opted to reclaim her body and her self-confidence by sharing photos of herself in her most vulnerable state.

And this, displaying her 311 pound female form in public, is how she went about “reclaiming” her body:
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Folks, she’s 34 years old. Just going by her facial structure, she could drop 150 to 170 pounds and make herself attractive, but that would be to admit that beauty and attractiveness are in the eyes of the beholding MEN. According to the chart above, she’s gone past 50% bodyfat. Note also the hideous glasses. The only thing she hasn’t done is cut her hair off and tattoo herself. I suspect if we check back in on her in 5 years, we’ll see short hair and ink.
I think a grossly obese woman should lose the weight instead of simply claiming that she’s beautiful when she obviously isn’t. Feminism is all about no accountability for women. No discipline? Can’t control your impulses? Became grossly obese as a result? You have a choice: either take responsibility for your actions, or lie to yourself. In the following video, watch the change in the smile as the responsible woman loses weight. It’s pretty amazing.

In Search Of Understanding: Nothing Is What It Seems

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The question was recently raised at a Labor Day family get-together: Why are so many women in America just plain batshit-crazy? It’s a good question, and I think the answer has several components.
On one level, I believe women suffer an increasingly severe level of cognitive dissonance and guilt for acting in a way that is so contrary to the way God designed them. They have embraced feminism, rebelled against God, destroyed their families, abused their children, played the whore and otherwise seared their conscience. God is not mocked, and when one sows the seeds of unrighteousness on will reap a bitter harvest.
Most people think Romans 1:26 is talking about lesbian sex. It isn’t. When one considers all the nuances of the phrase “natural function” that can be applied to women, sex is a very small part of the whole. Given that this is within the context of rejecting the authority of God and His structure in which woman was created from man and for man within marriage, there are many ways in which women can exchange the natural function for the unnatural without ever getting in bed with another woman.
On another level, Americans in general and women in particular have been subjected to the most fantastic and systematic head-game the world has ever seen. Quite literally, nothing is what it seems.
Everyone needs to get to know about the research of a guy named Antony C. Sutton.

 

 

Sutton was a brilliant man, a trained researcher, who gathered and published a lot of information that was quite embarrassing to the power elite. Probably the best proof that he was correct was that he was simply ignored by everyone who should have taken it upon themselves to repudiate his research. Nobody wanted to argue with him because he had an irrefutable set of facts that proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that we live in an Orwellian world in which nothing is as it seems. These books are all now available for free online: Wall Street and the Rise of Hitler, Wall Street and the Bolshevik Revolution, and Wall Street and FDR.
Why do I bring this up? Because one of Suttons’ friends was Charlotte Thomson Iserbyt. Both her father and her grandfather were alumni of Yale and her father was a member of the Order of Skull and Bones. Sutton had long wondered at the conspiracy that had worked to enable all the things he’d previously written about and she provided Sutton with the missing piece of the puzzle, a list of of the secret membership roster of the Order of Skull and Bones. With this, and based on all the previous research he’d done, he wrote his magnum opus: “America’s Secret Establishment: An Introduction to the Order of Skull and Bones.” He proved the conspiracy theory.
Mrs. Iserbyt was a senior policy analyst for the Department of Education. She wrote a book called “the deliberate dumbing down of america” (download for free here) which describes the true methods and goals of the American public education system. A better read is “The Underground History of American Education” by John Taylor Gatto (Read for free here). They both explain the truth that most Americans don’t want to hear: For almost fifty years, the American public has been deliberately manipulated, dumbed down, lied to and traumatized in order that they might be controlled. And it goes further than that; just ask Aaron Russo:

 

 

Then comes the issue of drugs. It is reported that one in four American women are being prescribed some form of medication for mental health. The majority of these prescriptions are for Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitors (SSRI’s). Why is this so bad? Because of what SSRI’s do, and the long term effects on the brain. Listen to the testimony of people who’ve tried to get off this train. Look at what this is doing to your brain.SSRI’s. Just don’t. Don’t take them and avoid women who do. Remember: a junkie is a junkie is a junkie.
I’m a fan of the blog Shrink4men by Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD. The Shrink4Men blog is painful to read, especially for me, because there are hundreds and hundreds of comments by men who describe the same kind of hell in their lives that my wife put me through. It was difficult to read her post “25 Signs Your Narcissistic or Borderline Wife or Girlfriend is Traumatizing You” (PDF) and realize that I’d been traumatized. In fact, when I displayed the predictable post-traumatic symptoms, that was used to further traumatize me. Yet, I was forced to accept that I was married to a Narcissistic personality disorder type who is still doing everything in her power to emotionally abuse me… and since I’m no longer available she abuses our children in order to hurt me.
I believe there’s a strong link between feminism, the narcissistic, hysterical and borderline personality disorders (the ‘cluster B’ stuff) that women are increasingly suffering from and the massive mental rape that’s been inflicted on the American people. Rape is an ugly word, but perhaps it isn’t correct. What the American people have been subjected to is an institutional form of conversion and retention techniques that were inflicted on them as children. It is only by recognizing what’s been done to them that they can begin the process of recovery and healing.
Want to help someone swallow the Red Pill? It begins with understanding how they got programmed with the Blue Pill.

Enter the White Knight

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The problem with white-knights (especially in the church) is they often don’t realize they’re doing it. So deeply has the feminist dogma penetrated, they think they’re on the side of both right and good.
Recently, a blogger called “Bike Bubba” attempted to take me to task because of the (outrageous to feminists) advice I gave. He was embarrassing to watch. He seemed upset because I advised a wife (who was seeking suggestions on how she could submit to her husband) to write him a letter and ask that he hold her accountable to the point of disciplining her (if necessary) and she should give him signed permission to do so. Up to and including corporal punishment.
That, of course, was just too much for Bubba. Several of the women appeared to be outraged, but it was Bike Bubba who stepped up to the plate to defend against the evil Toad.
First, he said:

 

Toad, Paul’s challenge to husbands is found in Ephesians 5:25-33, and it does not include any mandate for physical discipline or violence of any kind. 1 Peter 3:7 also notes that the husband who does not treat his wife as the weaker vessel will have his prayers hindered. i would have to assume that unless somehow it’s a good idea to take a hammer to one’s china or crystal, Peter is telling us that treating our wives roughly is not going to end well for us.

 

Noting his somewhat feminist exegesis, I corrected him. Note that he’s looking for a “mandate” of some sort. Note also that he completely ignores any mention of Revelation 3:19, which was cited in my original comment.

 

@Bubba: Read it again. Ephesians 5:22-24 is a logical syllogism. The authority of the husband over the wife (within the covenant entity called family) is exactly the same as the authority of Christ over the Church (another covenant entity). Paul was comparing and contrasting the heads of two separate covenant entities- the husband and Christ, making the point that within their own entities, their authority is supreme.
Then take a careful look at the first 3 chapters of Revelation, sometimes known as the seven epistles of Christ. Revelation 3:19 is part of the letter from Christ to the Laodicean church. You might want to do a word study on “chastise” and give it some thought. The risen Lord clearly says that His rebuking and chastening of His church is an act of love. Now go back to Ephesians 5 and contemplate loving the wife as Christ loves the church.

 

Filled with indignation, Bubba replied. He said :

 

Toad, if you think that Ephesians 5:22-4 endorses violence against one’s wife–or any portion of the Bible for that matter–then I hope that (a) you are and remain single and (b) you are not and will not become a church officer. If you should happen to be married and following your perverse, heretical advice, it is my hope that the elders and deacons of the church will administer the discipline you would richly deserve.
Ephesians speaks of cleansing one’s wife in the Word, not abusing her, and 1 Peter 3:7 speaks very clearly of the consequences that follow when a man does not live with his wife as the weaker vessel. Your prayers will not be heard.

 

OK. Got that? Corporal punishment is abuse, in Bubba’s book. Not only that, it’s perverse heretical advice I’m giving. Perhaps it’s abuse when Christians are chastised by the Lord for their misdeeds that bring shame upon Him and His church? Corporal punishment of children is abuse? Hmmm. No, it’s simple: If there are some things a husband simply isn’t to do with his wife, there are obviously some things Christ is not to do with the Church. Like require obedience and punish for disobedience. THIS is feminist exegesis.
Bubba provides guidance on what he believes with respect to theology on his blog, describing himself as “baptistic and fundamentalist.” He even helpfully lists a website on baptist distinctions, which clearly says under the very first in their list of eight distinctions:

 

The Bible is the final authority in all matters of belief and practice because the Bible is inspired by God and bears the absolute authority of God Himself. Whatever the Bible affirms, Baptists accept as true. No human opinion or decree of any church group can override the Bible. Even creeds and confessions of faith, which attempt to articulate the theology of Scripture, do not carry Scripture’s inherent authority. [Emphasis added]

 

It just so happens that Bubba and I are in complete agreement with that. The problem becomes one in which one attempts to recast the Word of God using a feminist interpretation that strips it of all power and authority (unless said power and authority is given to the women). Sadly, this is common in most Baptist denominations.
Note that under Bubba’s feminist exegesis, treating the wife as the weaker vessel means never giving her the accountability or discipline such a weaker vessel might need and perhaps even want. It means never providing boundaries within a marriage that are solid and will be enforced, because feminism has stripped women of all accountability. I responded to him one more time:

 

@Bubba
Dude- stop white-knighting. Please. It isn’t pretty.

 

Bubba finally came back and had this to say:

 

Toad, if citing the Scripture accurately counts as White Knighting, I’ll do it all day long. You would do well to try it.
So what we have here is, apparently, that some people view spanking as a turn-on, in which case it will be ineffective discipleship of one’s wife in the case of a sin issue, and others view it as violence, in which case it falls on the wrong side of 1 Peter 3:7.
In either case, moronic idea, and it has nothing to do with holding women up on a pedestal, but rather has everything to do with treating one’s “spare rib” the way God intended. As the, ahem, weaker vessel.
Nice name-calling, Toad, but that merely demonstrates that you are either unable or unwilling to make a real argument. They don’t call it the ad hominem “fallacy” for nothing, after all.

 

Notice that I described what Bubba, was doing. He neglected the central argument, tried to apply a tangential piece of scripture to support his position (prooftexting) and called what I was saying moronic before accusing me of name-calling.
I think he’s actually responding in fear. That got discussed later in the thread by Scott.
The fact he was whiteknighting is apparent in his inability to respond to exactly what I said. But he’s free to make a response here if he chooses. I won’t clog Sunshine Mary’s blog with any more. I suggested he do a word study on chastisement. I’m willing to bet he’d be more amazed if he did a study on corporal punishment. And all the verses that specifically apply it (gender-free) to adults.
It is possible to say things that women don’t want to hear, but the women don’t tend to address what was said, rather they make emotional responses. They simply make their displeasure known and sit back waiting for a feminist white knight to take up the fight [Editor: see here].
They are real, guys, but like the cartoon above, they don’t have much power, even in real life. Why? Because knights like Bubba claim one thing (Sola Scriptura) but it’s a feminist bait and switch and it can easily be argued with the Scripture he claims to revere. At the end of the day, they have an opinion that doesn’t stand up to the Bible they claim to believe in. That simple.
What’s needed is to reject the feminist assumptions and lies and get back to the subject that Feminism has rejected: obedience.

Casting Call

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Recently, over on Dalrock’s blog, submission of wives was being discussed. Scott made this statement, speaking as an experienced mental health professional:

 

“(2) her submission is voluntary,”
Let me expand on this a little further. Again, based on my experiences as a cog in the system–which were extensive.
Under current law in the US, this is the ONLY way “submission” will be occuring for the forseable future.
And..
1. If she changes her mind..you go to jail.
2. If some of your friends come over to your house for dinner and they witness it (and don’t like it)…you go to jail.
3. If she talks about it to her mother and she doesnt like it…you go to jail

 

He was challenged about this, and responded:

 

I stand by it because I have seen it. I have been the vehicle for it. I have seen men go to jail for:

 

  • Putting their wife on an allowance.
  • Stopping her from going out with certain friends.
  • Inspecting her phone records.
  • Telling her to quit her job.
I don’t so much care who believes me. I know it to be true first hand, so it is not an issue.

 

 

This seemed to me to be quite strange, and I questioned him about this.

 

What’s bothering me about what you said is the implication that a third party could induce a chain of events such as you’ve described over the objections of the wife.

 

 

“To expand–once the call is made-IT DOES NOT MATTER IF THE WIFE RECANTS in most states now. Even if it is hearsay from mommy in another state.”

 

 

“her testimony isn’t really dispositive if she decides to back off – it’s discounted, in many cases, if she decides to do that”

 

The terms “recant” and “back off” implies that at some point she made a statement (complaint) alleging wrong-doing on the part of the husband. However, my question was solely within the context of a third-party accuser and:
1.) no abuse occurred, in the opinion of the “victim”
2.) the wife didn’t make the complaint, objects to the complaint and denies abuse
3.) the wife is willing to testify in favor of the husband but not against him.

 

“What bothers me is there seems to be a large portion of men around here who think they still have some fancy lawyer tricks they are going to use in order to force the police to give them their due process rights back. Good luck with that. Once this train leaves the station on you, you are toast.”

 

We aren’t talking about fancy lawyer tricks. My concern is that Scott and Novaseeker are telling me that even under the three conditions I stated above, the husband would be convicted and the wife’s denial of abuse would be taken as confirmation of abuse. I’m not talking about recanted allegations made by the wife, rather a third party accuser and the wife’s denial any abuse took place.

 

“So, yes, someone is at your dinner party who is a feminist, doesn’t like the dynamic between you and your wife and sees it as Duluth abuse, can have you arrested for domestic violence even over your wife’s objections, and once that happens it’s likely that you will be sucked into the entire DV legal system”

 

Again, this is entirely within the context of what I originally asked Scott about, which was that a third party could get the husband thrown in jail and even convicted of domestic violence; against the will and over the objections of his wife- the purported victim. Even assuming they’re generally correct, I believe there is one huge loophole that will make it all go away. This loophole requires the wife be 100% on the husband’s side because ONLY she can defend him successfully.
I was reflecting on this, and it occurred to me that if what Scott and Novaseeker are saying is true, this is an opportunity for public education, and what better way to educate people than a short, dramatic video.
Imagine what follows as the script for a short PSA entitled “Don’t Be That Bitch”
  • Husband played by attractive male, tall, muscular, full head of hair, early forties. Wife played by very attractive woman, long blonde hair, thin with large breasts, mid thirties in age.
  • Children, four of them, oldest is about ten, youngest is two and still in diapers.
  • Judge is a balding male, mid-fifties white-knight beta with thick glasses and a wedding ring.
  • Prosecutor is an overweight, short-haired ugly woman with a bad attitude.
  • Feminist friend is a smug, self-righteous middle-aged butch looking woman who might be attractive if she were more feminine.
  • Husband’s attorney is an attractive, young and very feminine woman.
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Video begins in the courtroom, eyewitness on the stand, prosecutor has the floor and is questioning the star witness.
Prosecutor: “Would you describe the abusive behavior you witnessed, please?
Feminist Witness: “It’s a classic abusive relationship. He refers to himself as the “lord of the manor” and is always ordering her around like a servant and making her do stuff whenever I’m there. He won’t let her get a job because he says taking care of the children is more important than making money. I’ve heard him say that! He put her on an allowance, like she’s a child! He’s always calling her names, too, and making fun of her body.”
“The night he was arrested, I was at their home because she and I were going to go out for some girl-time. When she asked him for some money so we could go out, he gave her this really intimidating look and told her to go make him a sandwich, like she had to earn it! Then he slapped her because she wasn’t moving fast enough and she cried out in pain and ran away from him! I told him he was abusing her and he laughed at me and said “she loves it.” That was the last straw for me and I went into the bathroom and called the police.”
[Flashback: Feminist witness standing in bathroom dialing 911 and reporting an incident of domestic violence, asking for police intervention immediately. 911 operator asks if she thinks the husband is dangerous. Feminist witness answers “Yes. Definitely.” 911 operator asks if he’s armed. Feminist Witness says “I know there are guns in the house, but I don’t think he has one concealed on his person.”]
Prosecutor: “Have you ever witnessed any other abusive acts by the defendant that were directed toward his wife?”
Feminist Witness: “Yes. Frequently. I’ve seen him grab a fist-full of her hair and violently force her to kiss him on several occasions and on one other occasion he was yanking her hair and had her hands pinned against a wall over her head and she was moaning in pain. He’s constantly being physically aggressive and dominating with her and I’ve seen bruises on her neck where it looked like he had choked her. When I asked her about them she just shrugged her shoulders, said her husband’s name and changed the subject.”
[Flashback to scene at the family home. Cops arrived, Feminist Witness told them she witnessed husband physically strike wife. Wife, not knowing any better, admits he slapped her, but denies abuse. Husband gets taken away, wife and children are screaming, crying, and feminist former-friend is told to leave. Cut to fast-moving scene of husband being processed, booked and sitting in a cell. Repeat several more quick scenes of husband getting served breakfast for several mornings, then finally being arraigned and released OR with a TRO/No-Contact order against him. ]
[Cut to wife’s testimony, wife on the stand]
Attorney For Husband: Does your husband forbid you from working outside the home and keep you on an allowance in order to control you?”
Wife: “Are you kidding? He gets up and goes to work five and sometimes six days a week to pay all the bills. I get to stay at home, be a mom and homeschool OUR children. I don’t want to work outside the home because being a mom actually IS the most important job in the world. That means our one-income budget has us BOTH on an allowance and the budget controls BOTH of us because if we can’t afford something we don’t buy it. Period. We used to have a bunch of debt and did stupid stuff with credit cards but then we grew up and did the Dave Ramsey thing and I’m never going through that again.”
Attorney For Husband: “What is the ‘Dave Ramsey thing?’
Wife: “That’s where you go on an austerity budget and pay off all your debts, starting with the smallest one first. When you pay off the smallest debt, that payment then gets applied to the next smallest debt, and so on. Finally, you get to the biggest debt but you’re making monster payments on it because all the money that used to get paid on all the other debts is now ALL being paid on the last debt. We did that for over two years. WE ARE DEBT FREE and I’m not going to go through getting out of debt again. We each have an allowance and if I want some of his allowance because I spent mine, I have to earn it. If he wants some of mine, believe me, I have a list of stuff I want done.”
Attorney For Husband: I see. Ok, about this name-calling, um… what kind of names does your husband call you?
Wife: “In public it’s always something like Sweetcheeks, Creampie, Jugs, Hoochie-Mama, or something like that.”
Attorney For Husband: “Does it bother you when your husband calls you names?”
[Wife turns and looks judge in the eye and holds eye contact for the following statement. Camera from judge’s POV,, wife looking straight into lens:]
Wife: “No. You see, it isn’t that I’m a dirty little cum-guzzling slut. OK?
Attorney For Husband: “I never implied any such thing!”
Wife: “The point is NOT that I’m a dirty little cum-guzzling slut, the point is that I am HIS dirty little cum-guzzling slut and I enjoy it more than you can possibly imagine. When he calls me Creampie, or Jugs, [Wife bounces her breasts suggestively] I know exactly what he’s thinking about and I like that too. It reminds me that he OWNS me and I CHOSE that. That might make you uncomfortable, but I’m the one who chose this and I like it.”
[Cut back to Wife’s POV, looking at judge, who can no longer meet her eye and is starting to look a bit flushed.]
Attorney For Husband: “What about him calling himself the ‘lord of the manor’ and ordering you around?”
Wife: “I’m not sure you’re listening to me, but in our home, he IS the lord of the manor, I’m his happy little serving wench. Does he like it? Of course- who wouldn’t? Again, I’m not complaining about it because I LIKE IT THAT WAY. You know the old saying about a wife is supposed to be a chef in the kitchen, a maid in the living room and a whore in the bedroom? Well, whatever he wants, if it’s within my power to give it to him, he’ll get it.”
Attorney For Husband: “In the incident that was described earlier, where on your body did your husband slap you?”
Wife: “Same place he usually slaps me, on my ass.”
Attorney For Husband: “How did you feel when your husband slapped you on the, uh, rear end?”
[Wife again focuses on judge’s face, camera angle shifts to judges POV with wife looking into the camera]
Wife: “Actually, it was really hot. I felt like giving him a blowjob while he ate his sandwich because he was paying out of his own allowance for me to go out with a woman I knew he didn’t like and all he wanted out of it was a sandwich and for me to come home horny! He was eating the sandwich when the cops got there and they wouldn’t listen to me, they arrested him. Then they took him to jail and THIS COURT issued a no-contact order so he couldn’t come home and I had to wait another THREE WEEKS before I could get that fixed and finally get laid again…
So let me tell you how I’ve been actually been abused, your honor: How about ALMOST AN ENTIRE MONTH with NO SEX because some bitch I thought was a friend decided she needed to stick her nose in my marriage. My husband got arrested, then was forbidden to have any contact with me and now he’s being prosecuted and we have to use his hard-earned savings to pay for an attorney to try to keep you from wrecking OUR lives. What did I get out of this?”
“Over twenty-four days with no sex. That’s abuse in my book. And then these idiots [Wife waves toward the prosecutor] come along and tell me I’m abused and I need help. They are all a bunch of fucking idiots and they are the ones who are abusing me because they refuse to Go The Fuck Away and leave us alone.”
Attorney For Husband: “Does your husband strike you frequently?”
Wife: “I prefer the word spank.”
Attorney For Husband: “Does your husband spank you frequently?”
[Wife looks straight at husband, smiles]
Wife: “He usually he makes me beg for it first, unless he thinks I deserve it. I gave him a signed, notarized non-consensual consent agreement that states he has my permission to spank me anytime he thinks I need it, for whatever reason, regardless of whether or not I want him to. My lawyer drew it up and I signed it with complete understanding of what it says.”
Attorney For Husband: “Why did you sign a document like that and give it to your husband?”
[Wife turns to judge before answering]
Wife: “Because the times I need a spanking are the times I’m most likely to tell him not to touch me and I might be stupid enough to get those people involved, which I would truly regret after the fact. I chose this route after careful consideration in a quiet, rational state of mind with competent counsel to assist me. So, I may not want to get spanked when I really need it, but after he gets done spanking me, I’m always really glad he did it.”
Attorney For Husband: “Are you trying to tell the court you enjoy being spanked?”
[Wife keeps focus on judge while answering question, view shifts to judge’s point of view with wife speaking directly to judge]
Wife: [Shakes head, rolls eyes.] “Think of the spanking as foreplay, ’cause it isn’t about the spanking, it’s about what comes after the spanking. Hottest. Sex. Imaginable. We’re talking earthquake and hurricane force orgasms. Just that one swat on the ass that got him arrested gave me a tingle that went straight to you know where [points at crotch] and he knew exactly what it did to me and he knew I loved it.”
Attorney For Husband: “What about the hair pulling and pinning you against a wall?”
[Wife addresses answer to husband’s attorney]
Wife: “When he grabs me by the hair and stuff like that, I get little tingles running up and down my spine and all through my body and I just kind of melt. I love it when he does stuff like that and I’m getting wet just thinking about it. OK? Like one time before we were married, he picked me up from work. Literally. He walked in and I was talking to a couple of the women, but I’d already clocked out. He didn’t say a word, just walked over, picked me up, threw me over his shoulder and walked out with me. That was so hot I had him pull over on a quiet street and I jumped him right there in the car. I wouldn’t even let him get me home. You’re straight, right? You have to know what I’m talking about.”
Attorney For Husband: “What about the bruises that were mentioned?”
Wife: They were hickies and I didn’t explain it because it wasn’t any of her business, but look- it doesn’t matter. We play rough because we BOTH like it rough. Both of us. If you think this is a one-way street, tell my husband to take his shirt off and take a look at what happens once he really gets me going.”
Attorney For Husband: “So you enjoy it when your husband is physically rough with you?”
Wife: “That’s what I’ve been trying to tell you. I like it, I want it and I don’t want it to stop.”
Attorney For Husband: “You don’t want it to stop?”
Wife: “Hell no! What I want stopped is this bullshit prosecution of my husband. We have a 24/7 Dominant-Submissive relationship, I call my husband ‘master’ and I do whatever he tells me to do because I want to please my master. If he told me to strip naked in public, I’d do it.”
[Judge rolls his eyes at that statement and looks at husband. Husband looks at judge, amused, and raises an eyebrow.]
Husband: [Snaps fingers while looking at judge, but speaking to wife] “Cupcake, lets see how fast you can strip.”
[Wife jumps to her feet, shrugs out of her dress and reaches behind her back to unfasten her bra. Judge bangs gavel and furiously orders her to stop undressing and pull her dress back up. Wife stops unfastening her bra, but looks to her husband, who stares at her for a moment before he nods his permission and motions her to put her dress back on. Wife pulls dress back up and sits down.]
[Bang. Bang. Bang. Judge gets everyone’s attention with his gavel.]
Judge: “I have put up with this circus long enough. Of my own motion, I am dismissing this case. Whatever antics this couple amuses themselves with is their business and it’s apparent to me that this is not something that should be taking up this court’s time.”
Attorney For Husband: “Your honor, I move the court to restore my client to the condition he was in prior to his arrest. That would include expunging his record of arrest, removing him from the domestic violence offender database, returning his personal weapons and sealing the highly personal testimony that’s been heard in this case. Since this court agrees this isn’t a matter of domestic violence, I’m asking that my client be restored so they can get on with their lives and put this behind them.”
[Speaking to Prosecutor] “Remove his name from the domestic violence offender’s database and give him back his firearms. I am ordering his record of arrest expunged and I am sealing this case. Any objections? No? It is so ordered. In the future I suggest your office do a better job of investigation before filing domestic violence charges when they’re clearly not warranted and wasting this court’s time trying to prosecute when there’s clearly no victim.”
[Speaking to Wife] Ma’am, you will restrain yourself and keep your clothes on until you get home. After that, I don’t care what you two do, but I don’t want to hear of any complaints of public indecency in our parking lot because your libido got out of hand. [Bang] “Case dismissed.”
[Scene cuts to the family home: husband, wife and husband’s attorney seated at the dinner table]
Attorney For Husband: [Speaking to wife] “I just want to say, that was an academy award winning performance today. Do you realize that if you’d pulled your bra off he would have probably jailed you for contempt?”
Wife: [Smiling] “I had him sew it closed this morning. Even with the hooks undone, it still wouldn’t come off.”
Attorney For Husband: [Shocked look on face] “You two planned that?”
Husband: “You said she had to convince the court we have an ‘alternative lifestyle’ and go into detail about BDSM stuff, so she’s been reading FetLife for weeks. She even posted a couple of questions and several of people in the group who responded are lawyers. They’re the ones who suggested I command her to strip because that’s the one thing a woman will not do unless she’s seriously into being submissive. Women can say anything, but when she pulled her dress down and started undoing her bra, that was putting her money where he mouth was. I knew he wasn’t going to allow her to completely strip down, but we had to give him time to recover and at the same time she had to be getting undressed as fast as possible because that’s what I’d ordered her to do. Sewing the bra on seemed like the best solution. The best part was after he ordered her to get dressed, when she looked at me for permission. I think that’s what finally did it.”
Attorney For Husband: [Shakes head] “Well, it worked. I doubt the prosecutor’s office will file DV charges against you again anytime soon, but you two need to realize that it could have gone either way. [Speaking to husband] You could have had your life ruined. Seriously ruined. I’m just thankful you two were willing to play it out the way I told you to. Otherwise, you’d be a convicted felon right now. If she hadn’t been willing to play it completely over the top, they’d have taken her denial of abuse as the proof she was abused.
[Speaking to Wife] When you looked the judge in the eye and said “I am his dirty little cum guzzling slut and I like it that way” he was totally on your side from that point on, but he let me rebut all the abuse issues for the record. I suggest, um, you stay with the role and whenever somebody acts concerned with your submissiveness to him, describe it in terms of kink and smile about it. Amplify whatever is causing their concern the same way you described getting spanked to the judge. Plenty of people will make a complaint about domestic violence, and like you said, you might even be tempted to do it, but nobody opens their mouth about BDSM except to gossip about it.
Attorney For Husband[stands and picks up purse]. “I need to go, but I’m curious. How did you get a notary to backdate that consent for spanking?”
Husband: “We didn’t get it backdated. It was signed 3 years ago.”
[Wife has very wide-eyed innocent look on her face]
Attorney For Husband: “So that means…”
Wife: [Shaking head, smiling] “Now you’re asking for the details, but you don’t get that without skin in the game. If you want answers, take the clothes off and join us for a threesome.”
Attorney For Husband[Gives both of them a wry smile]. “Perfect answer. That’s exactly what I was talking about. I think you’ll do just fine.”

Following The Money…

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Currently, according to 2012 data, there are about 12,279,000 single parent households in the United States. The vast majority of them are headed by women, as can be seen in the chart below: post1
What we immediately notice is that single-family households are dominated by households headed by women, with an almost even split between the never-married and the divorced or separated. Looking at the income of single family households, We see that almost half of all single-parent households headed by women (45.6%) have a household income of just over $2000 per month. Included in the census definition of income is child support, alimony, federal and state benefits and other income. This is an important distinction because “income” as described by the Census Bureau goes beyond even the IRS definitions of taxable income, to include literally all monies received. The only thing (and a major error in our thinking) missing is imputed income, such as in cases in which the ex-wife lives in the home purchased by her ex-husband and he is required to continue paying the mortgage. Another example is the state-run health-care programs for children that operate on an ad hoc basis, essentially for free. There is no accounting for these benefits, which would cost a significant amount if purchased on the open market.
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Looking at the cohort with income of less than $10,000 per year, if we assume two children, the SNAP benefits would be over $500 per month and going by median child support payments, the family would be receiving some $600 per month in child support. This $1100 per month in just SNAP and child support comes out to $13,200 per year. In other words, a significant number of single-parent households are supported entirely by the father of their children and the state. In this case, the state is using its police powers to expropriate money from the biological father.
Notice in the chart below that if we back out the $13,200 per year in combined SNAP benefits and median child support, almost 30% of single parent homes headed by women are below $10,000 in income and over half of these families have earnings of less than $25,000 per year. This is only considering SNAP benefits, but there are many other programs as well, including medical insurance for the children (such as the Well Kids program) that account for an ‘on demand’ benefit that would otherwise cost a significant amount of money each month.
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No such allowance was made for households headed by men, because on the low end of the scale men receive no statistically significant child support from women and tend not to apply for or receive welfare benefits. There is very much a double standard for men and women in family court as witnessed by the fact that women receive primary custody of the children 80% of the time. Anecdotal evidence indicates only men who are able to hire competent counsel and afford investigative services to prove the woman is less fit than they are to receive custody are actually able to gain custody, such is the power of the bias against men.
As can be seen by the chart above, single, divorced and separated mothers are effectively married to the state. In contrast, 41.7% of all single-parent households headed by men have an income of greater than $50,000. Perhaps the reasonable way to view this chart is that only men with enough money to afford good counsel and investigative services are able to gain custody of their children in the current legal environment.
The next chart, which compares the earnings of men fifteen years of age and older, comparing married men to men who are either never married, separated, divorced or widowed, we see that married men have a strong tendency to earn more than their never-married or no-longer married counterparts.
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From age fifteen and up, many men will spend some ten years pursuing an education (effectively investing in themselves) without earning any income. Note that the percentages listed in this chart are of all men. Thus, just below 14 percent of all men who have no earnings are married, a percentage only surpassed by the cohort of married men earning $40,000 to $75,000 per year. Given the economy and long-term unemployment of many men, it is believed chronic unemployment and a shift to grey-market employment accounts for the significant percentage of married men with no official earnings.
The “not married” men in the chart above are the men typically paying child support and alimony. Once past $25,000 per year, married men consistently out-earn not-married men in every category, especially the $40k-$75k quintile. One inference that might be drawn from this chart is that the not-married men do not have as much incentive to earn more money as their married peers do, given that increases in earnings will result in increased child support and alimony payments.
If one accepts that the destruction of marriage creates a disincentive for men to be productive, this is proof that feminism is destroying the US economy.

Tingles and Social Taboos

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Much has been said about the tingles being the driving force behind a female’s attraction to a man. One of the serious questions for a married man is how to keep the tingles coming. What is referred to as ‘the tingles’ is in fact very real, and we need to talk about ocytocin and prolactin and their effect on a woman’s body in order to understand this.
The context in which to understand the biochemistry of the brain is simple: repetitive actions form neural channels in the brain. This is true with both thought and action. Emotionally we can easily see this in feminists who react immediately and with anger to certain trigger words or phrases. These neural channels lead to certain behaviors which can and do result in the release of chemicals in the brain. Oxytocin surges are the primary driving force behind the ‘tingles’ and I posit that women have created neural pathways that govern the release of oxytocin as a result of their attraction to any given man. If the man doesn’t trigger the preconditioned response, there is no attraction. That said, let’s discuss oxytocin.
When a woman has an orgasm her body releases a flood of oxytocin, which produces a powerful experience of pleasure. During intercourse, when her partner ejaculates onto her cervix, prostaglandins in the semen also cause her body to release oxytocin, which results in physical pleasure apart from on orgasm on her part. If they orgasm together, she gets a double-dose of oxytocin at the same time. The uterus will spasm and contract, which causes the sperm entering the cervix to be moved quickly up the fallopian tubes. These contractions are often described as ‘butterflies’ or ‘fluttering’ in the pelvic area. She may experience tingling in the breasts from activity in the alveoli. The endorphins released during orgasm will flood her system causing decreased perception of pain and feelings of euphoria.
However, oxytocin isn’t only released during intimate contact. Physical touch, holding hands, kissing and simple body contact causes a release of oxytocin which results in feelings of pleasure and leads to pair-bonding when a couple is dating. A strong physical attraction to a man can cause a release of oxytocin. The euphoric rush from the release of oxytocin is typically what it being referred to as the ‘tingles’ and it can happen from mere visual stimulation. Women may not like to admit it, but physiological testing proves they are just as likely to become aroused by porn as men.
As has been demonstrated, there tends to be a ‘honeymoon’ phase of marriage which coincides with high average levels of oxytocin levels in the woman. In order to understand why it is important for a husband to regularly stimulate the release of oxytocin, we look at breastfeeding. Numerous studies have shown that the act of breastfeeding causes a significant release of oxytocin, which stimulates the bonding between mother and child.
Next, we examine prolactin, which has a different effect than the euphoric rush of oxytocin. Prolactin modulates her neural state such that the woman begins ‘nesting behavior’ and focuses on house and home. Studies have shown women in a relationship that describe an active and pleasant sex life have higher average levels of prolactin than single women. Sex and breast-play elevates the level of prolactin in the woman’s body along with oxytocin. Higher levels of prolactin also tend to enlarge the breasts because the alveoli stay at a higher state of development. If the husband pays a lot of attention to his wife’s breasts, she’s likely to have further interest in his attention to her breasts because more attention leads to more oxytocin and prolactin in her system. Knowing this, we see that a woman’s emotional state can be enhanced with feelings of pleasure and well-being by her husband’s regular attention to her breasts with particular attention to the nipples. And you guys thought they were just baby feeding devices.
Prolactin is effectively opposed on a hormonal level by estrogen. When the level of one is high, it suppresses the other. Think of a seesaw- when one goes up the other goes down. However, the body doesn’t want to be balanced in the middle, it wants one to be dominant. In a non-pregnant state, we see a balance of high estrogen and low prolactin. Nipple stimulation causes the production of prolactin and enough nipple stimulation can tip the balance over to high prolactin – low estrogen. One result of this, and the best signal the prolactin is now fully dominant, is the cessation of the woman’s monthly menses. This is known as an artificially induced post-partum state, which is what birth control pills do. During pregnancy, the placenta is the source of high hormone levels and the ovaries are in a resting state because the follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) has been absent. After childbirth a woman often has a drop in estrogen (this drop in estrogen is the usual culprit in post-partum depression).
With low levels of estrogen following childbirth there is a sensitivity to prolactin. The nipple stimulation associated with breastfeeding causes the production of prolactin, which tips the balance in favor of prolactin against estrogen. If she breastfeeds often enough, FSH will be suppressed, estrogen will stay low, she won’t menstruate and her breasts will produce plenty of milk. When nipple stimulation decreases, the production of prolactin falls, allowing the estrogen – prolactin levels to come into balance and the menstrual cycle returns. Once estrogen becomes dominant again her breasts dry up and milk production ceases, along with the post-partum state.

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You might be wondering why I’m talking about this. The reason is simple: Elevated levels of prolactin cause changes in a woman’s emotions, feelings and desires. One way this has been described is ‘nesting behavior.’ The woman wants to stay at home, not explore or roam. She may want to stay in bed and wants to have her husband in bed with her. She wants to cuddle and she feels more serene and calm, with a strong desire to nurture. She wants intimacy. Elevated levels of oxytocin at this time stimulate bonding with her husband and the surges of oxytocin reward their intimate time together.
During the “honeymoon” phase of the marriage when everything is still exciting, the levels of oxytocin released are quite high. As time goes by, the level of oxytocin released tends to drop off. This can be remedied through some creative romancing on one end of the scale and what is known as ‘soft dread game’ on the other. As this research shows, a little anxiety over the relationship can be a good thing. Christians are often of the belief that sex must always be gentle and loving. As the feminist author Diana Bruk points out in a recent essay about Russian men, however: “It is a truth universally acknowledged that a woman wants a man who’s a gentleman at dinner and an animal in bed.”
I believe keeping a wife’s level of oxytocin high during its surges is critical to helping her maintain the ‘tingles’ for the husband. Giving the breasts, and especially the nipples, extended amounts of attention as a part of foreplay and during sex will cause the release of oxytocin and prolactin, resulting in emotional feelings of happiness, euphoria and closeness for her husband. This leads to bonding. Likewise, high levels of prolactin will maintain her nurturing desires and help her focus to stay inward on her family rather than outward toward other things. Thirty minutes of aerobic exercise will also stimulate the release of prolactin, as well as other endorphins. A 30 minute aerobics session followed by sex would double-up the release of prolactin and oxytocin. The release of prolactin produced by the exercise would also help put her ‘in the mood’ to have sex. Foreplay that focuses on the breasts causes the release of oxytocin and the sex that follows will produce even more. Do this often enough and her neural pathway to pleasure will be bonded to the guy who’s giving her the pleasure.
To go one step further, we could look at what are known as ‘Adult Nursing Relationships’ (ANR) or ‘Adult Breastfeeding Relationships’ (ABR). I think the better term would be ANR because it includes nursing behavior in which the woman isn’t actually producing milk. (I am not referring to infant-play, in which the man puts on a diaper and acts like a baby- we’re talking about sucking on tits, that’s it.) Married couples who maintain an ANR typically go to great lengths to describe the emotional closeness and pair-bonding that results.
For whatever reason, this is a societal taboo. Practically considered a fetish.
Women in ANR’s report their breasts increased in size as their milk production increased (DUH!), while at the same time find they are losing weight due to their milk production. The commitment required by the partner to be available to nurse on a regular schedule and the pair-bonding that takes place through this very intimate act is remarkable. Most interestingly, almost any woman can induce lactation by nothing more than nipple stimulation, even if she is post-menopause. Pregnancy is not required. Some women choose to induce lactation through a combination of hormones (Yasmin birth control pills, for example) and Domperidone, a drug that has as a side effect the stimulation of or increase in lactation. This can take a woman from dry B-cups to D-cup fountains in six to eight months.
(EDIT: For those women who don’t have a partner but want larger breasts without surgery or milk production, there is evidentlya significant body ofsome published research demonstrating that women can increase the size of their breasts through hypnosis while at the same time shrinking their waist.)
So, why is a practice such as ANR such a taboo if it gives the woman bigger boobs and helps keep her figure slim at the same time, keeps her at home in the evenings and causes her to be more nurturing and pleasing to her husband? Add to that the natural suppression of her menses (no more PMS) without drugs. The icing on the cake is a regular nursing schedule is basically a regular sex schedule. What’s not to like about this? The taste of milk? I see a beneficial process in which the woman is getting the chemicals delivered to her brain that she needs to stay focused on her husband and stay bonded with him, as well as the intimacy she craves. He gets a better looking wife and a guarantee of regular, fulfilling sex. All he has to do is develop a taste for milk.
Domperidone
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