Modern Women: Schrödinger’s Cats

November 28, 2016March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad20 Comments

The reader may or may not be familiar with the concept of quantum superposition, but most of us have heard at least a reference to Schrödinger‘s Box or Schrödinger‘s Cat. It comes from a “thought experiment” by Edwin Schrödinger in 1935, in which a cat is locked in a steel box with an amount of radioactive material that triggers a release of poison when it decays. After a certain amount of time the material may or may not have decayed, so the poison may or may not have been released. The cat may or may not be alive. Thus, according to the superposition theory, the cat simultaneously exists as a living cat and a dead cat until reality intrudes and someone opens the box to observe the outcome.

Make of it what you will, but here at Toad’s Hall we have identified Schrödinger‘s Cat: the modern woman.

Schrödinger‘s Pussy?

We start with a little girl who grows to become a woman and one day (the median age is 17.1 years of age) she decided to give her virginity to a guy named Jimmy Schrodinger. With that act she and Jimmy were married and he is her husband. But she didn’t tell her father about this and he had no idea that in giving her virginity to Jimmy that they were married.

This is described in Scripture as the man seducing the eligible virgin. And maybe Jimmy did, but these days the girls don’t need much encouragement if they’re attracted to the man. The thing is, giving her virginity to Jimmy triggered the Law of Marriage (Genesis 2:24) and according to that Law she was married, but her father wasn’t part of that decision. That is critically important because as a young woman living in her father’s house, she is subject to the Law of Vows (Numbers 30) and her father has the authority to review any and every agreement she makes in the day he hears of it.

She knew Jimmy wanted sex. She didn’t have to say anything to agree and when she lifted her ass so he could pull her pants and panties off, that was agreement enough. For an eligible virgin, the act of sex is marriage. When she agreed to have sex, she agreed to marry that man. That agreement to marry was then consummated when they did have sex. This brings up a serious question because she made that decision and then followed through on it before Daddy had a chance to review it. And with the act of marriage, the authority over the woman passes from her father to her husband.

Does that mean Daddy is shut out? Or does he still get to review her agreement? If Daddy forbids her agreement, are they married? That is the case described in Exodus 22:16-17.

“If a man seduces a virgin who is not engaged, and lies with her, he must pay a dowry for her to be his wife. If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him, he shall^[a] pay money equal to the dowry for virgins.” Exodus 22:16-17

The first thing we should note is the underlined words “to be” are in italics. They are a translators addition not found in the original text and instead of clarifying what the text says, the added words change the meaning. Verse 16 describes the father allowing his daughters agreement and they are married. Verse 17 describes the father forbidding her agreement, meaning he refuses to allow his daughter to marry this young man. Which is why the text says “If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him…”

Understand that if he forbids her decision, he is not annulling the marriage, he is refusing to allow the man to marry his daughter. Meaning, from the moment of the agreement (which he later forbid) she is no longer eligible to marry the man. Because that man is no longer eligible to marry her, the subsequent act of coitus does not create a marriage. She is left unmarried and no longer a virgin.

Interestingly, there is no time limit on the father’s authority to forbid an agreement his daughter might have made when she was in her youth living in his house, he may forbid it in the day he hears of it. That may not be until many years later.

Quantum Vagina

If the father never hears of it he can’t forbid that agreement so our girl was married when she gave Jimmy her virginity and she stays married to him. And after she breaks up with Jimmy (and it’s pretty much guaranteed she will), every other man she has sex with after that is an act of adultery. And when she finally has a wedding and “marries” some man years later, the entire affair is fraudulent because she is still married to Jimmy. And if she later decides she isn’t haaappy with the man she had a wedding with and decides to divorce him, it’s meaningless because she wasn’t really married to him in the first place because she’s still married to Jimmy.

If her father does hear of it and he forbids her agreement, even many years later, then that original act of coitus in which she gave Jimmy her virginity did not result in marriage because the agreement came before the penetration and when the penetration occured she was no longer eligible. Because Daddy said no to the marriage. Which is why Exodus 22:17 states “If her father absolutely refuses to give her to him…” When he forbids her agreement to marry he is refusing to give her in marriage to that man. He is no longer eligible to marry her. When Daddy does that (after the fact), it means she is no longer a virgin but she is not married either. Which means that every other man she had sex with after that was not a case of adultery, it was just sex.

Because she was no longer a virgin and never married, when she finally agreed to marry some man, she was married to him because she was eligible to marry AND she was agreeing to marry. Prior to her father forbidding that original agreement she was living in adultery with the man she only thought she was married to; after he forbids it she’s living in marriage with her husband and has never committed adultery up to that point.

The modern woman as Schrödinger‘s Pussy.

She is both an eligible virgin and an ineligible virgin. Depending on her history, she is married to one man and married to another man at the same time. She is married and not married at the same time. She is an adulteress and also a woman who has never committed adultery. We do not actually know the reality of the situation until we can observe that her father forbid his daughter’s agreement to get married. It’s a box that stays closed until her father takes action or dies without taking action.

This illustrates the power of fathers. Oh- and do make note of that part about “in her youth and living in her father’s house.” That’s a limiting restriction on her father’s authority to review and forbid her agreements. Perhaps that’s why there is such a satanic focus on separating children from their fathers. Regardless what churchians know or don’t know, Satan knows full well the power of a father.

Churchian Fail: 5 out of 21

November 20, 2016March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad41 Comments

The family is the foundation of civilization and sexual morality is the foundation of family. Most Christians would agree with those two statements, but most Christians are ignorant of the fact that of the following twenty-one points from the Bible concerning sexual morality, only five are generally and consistently taught by the churches today. Five out of twenty-one is the score for modern churchianity.

Keep in mind that this problem was baked into the cake 1500 years ago. You might have heard the old saying that when you’ve got them by the balls, their hearts and minds will follow. There’s a lot of truth in that. This is all about power-hungry individuals and a group of very influential early church fathers who hated sex and considered sex- even within marriage, to be sinful and at best a necessary evil.

Understanding Churchian Sexual Morality

I. Modern Christianity pays little more than lip service to the idea that the Lord Jesus Christ cares what His servants do. If this premise is correct, Christianity is only useful in terms of providing common social cues and general attitudes. If this premise is not correct, modern Christianity doesn’t need a revival, it needs to be destroyed for the apostate mess that it is.

II. Modern Christians are almost completely ignorant of what the Bible actually says and they can’t be bothered to read it in order to find out. If and when they do, there is a legion of feminist professional Christians on hand to “help” them “interpret” what the Bible says. The interpretation will prevent understanding what the words actually say and mean.

III. The modern church is a business, typically organized as a not-for-profit corporation that provides services to the general public of a religious nature. The purpose of this business is to receive money (tithes) from the attending public in return for teaching them that God loves them, Jesus forgives them no matter what they’ve done, they should love one another and not forget to tithe.

IV. Anyone who teaches what the Bible says within the modern framework of Christianity is derided as a “fundamentalist” and generally rejected, mocked and ridiculed because they take the appropriate points of what the Bible says in a literal fashion.

V. Because of point #4, Modern Christians of the west are unable to understand Islam because they cannot fathom the idea of being a servant of God with the requirement to do what God has commanded them to do. Therefore, they refer to Muslims who take such an attitude as being “radicalized” instead of understanding that such Muslims are simply taking their religious duties seriously. Ironically, it is common to hear of certain Christians becoming “on fire for the Lord” because they got serious about being obedient to what the Bible says, but they cannot make the connection and see that when a Muslim becomes “on fire for Mohammed” the fire is generally coming from the muzzle of a rifle.

VI. Anyone who digs into the Bible and carefully studies the area of sexual morality, marriage and family relations will discover that the doctrines in place in virtually every church are in direct conflict with what the Bible says about these areas.

VII. Anyone who teaches the parts of the Bible that conflict with the carefully constructed doctrines concerning sexual morality and marriage will be viciously attacked by everyone in the modern church; Catholic, Orthodox and Protestant.

21 Elements Of Biblical Sexual Morality

The act of marriage is sexual intercourse and to have sex with an eligible virgin is to marry her (Genesis 2:24). This means that every man she has sex with after that is a case of adultery because the woman is already married to the man who took her virginity. Following that, any so-called marriage to another man is fraudulent because the woman is already married.
The Law of Marriage states that when an eligible virgin has sex, she is married. The Law of Vows states the father has the authority to forbid any vow or agreement his daughter makes in the day he hears of it. Because the act of sexual intercourse is the act of marriage, when an eligible virgin has sex she is married. Her agreement to have sex is therefore her agreement to marry. However, in the day her father hears of her agreement (which happens after she has sex with him) he can forbid that agreement and from the moment of the agreement she is no longer an eligible virgin. Which means that the subsequent act of having sex did not make her married because her father refused her agreement and refused to give her in marriage. Thus, we see in Exodus 22:16 an example of the father allowing her agreement and they are married. In the following verse (verse 17) the father forbids it and the text says “and if he absolutely refuses to give her…” There is no time limit and her father can forbid that agreement in the day he hears of it if she made the agreement in her youth while living in his house.
The consent and/or commitment of an eligible virgin to her marriage is not necessary or required for her to be married (Exodus 21:7-10; Exodus 22:16; Deuteronomy 21:10-14; Deuteronomy 22:28-29). In contrast, marriage to an eligible non-virgin (such as a widow or legitimately divorced woman) requires her consent to marry in addition to sex in order to form a marriage (Genesis 2:24; Numbers 30:9; 1st Corinthians 7:39).
With the act of penetration, the man makes his commitment to marry the woman he is having sex with, every single time (Genesis 2:24).
There is no requirement anywhere in Scripture for a betrothal period, a celebration or ceremony of any kind, public or private, nor does marriage require the permission of any third party such as the church, because the authority to marry was granted to the man in the Law of Marriage (Genesis 2:24).
Reinforcing point #4, there is no prohibition anywhere in Scripture forbidding a man from having sex with an eligible woman, regardless of his marital status. If the woman is a virgin they are married. If the woman is not a virgin her consent to marry is required before they are married. There is no prohibition anywhere in Scripture that prohibits an eligible woman from having sex with a man eligible to marry her. According to Romans 4:15 and 5:13, the lack of prohibition means the act is not a sin.
The lack of an eligible virgin’s requirement to provide consent to a marriage means she may be raped into marriage (Deuteronomy 22:28-29).
If a woman agrees to be married and does so without her father’s consent, he has the authority to forbid her agreement in the day he hears of it (Numbers 30:5). By forbidding her agreement to marry she is no longer eligible to marry that man and the subsequent act of sex does not make them married. This is the reason Exodus 22:17 states “if the father absolutely refuses to give her.”
A married woman who has sex with any man other than her husband commits adultery as long as he is still alive (Leviticus 18:20, 20:10, Romans 7:2-3) which means that adultery requires a married woman. Unless a married woman is involved there can be no adultery.
The original standard of marriage was permanent but non-exclusive commitment on the part of the man with permanent and exclusive commitment on the part of the woman (Genesis 2:24, Leviticus 18:20, Genesis 3:16).
Genesis 2:24 allowed a man to have more than one wife, which was supported throughout Scripture (Deuteronomy 25:5-10; 2nd Samuel 12:8; Jeremiah 31:21-32) and never changed.
Although the standard of Genesis 2:24 called for permanent commitment on the part of the men, Moses permitted men to divorce their wives for adultery (Deuteronomy 24:1; Matthew 19:7-9). Christ later made a regulation for His church forbidding divorce between two Christians married to each other, effectively restoring the original standard of marriage within His church (1st Corinthians 7:10-11).
The Apostle Paul instructed that if a Christian was married to a non-Christian and the non-Christian left the Christian and refused to live with them, the Christian was free (no longer bound) to the marriage (1st Corinthians 7:12-15).
If a man lies with a man as with a woman, that is prohibited, an abomination and was classified as a death penalty offense (Leviticus 18:22, 20:13).
If either a man or a woman has sex with an animal it is a perversion and a death penalty offense (Leviticus 18:23, 20:15-16).
While male homosexuality was an offense and bestiality was an offense for both men and women, homosexual contact between women was not prohibited except for cases of incest. The incest statutes contain two prohibitions on a man marrying sisters, or marrying a mother-daughter or grandmother-granddaughter. Those regulations presume sexual contact between wives in a polygynous marriage (Leviticus 18:17-18).
There is no prohibition anywhere in Scripture that forbids a woman from being a simple money-for-sex prostitute, although prostitution as part of idolatry (cult prostitute) is forbidden in Deuteronomy 23:17.
The only prohibition against using the services of a prostitute is in 1st Corinthians 6:15-16, which only forbids Christian men from using prostitutes.
If a man has sex with an eligible woman who is not a virgin and she does not consent to marry, all they did was have sex, there was no sin (Romans 4:15; 5:13).
The only way a man and woman can have “premarital sex” is if they are engaged to be married and have sex during the engagement period. If they do so the man has violated the requirements of the engagement by not keeping his vow (Numbers 30:2). They are not married (even though she was a virgin) because due to the voluntary agreement, she cannot be married until after the end of the engagement period and any agreed upon ceremony. In addition, the portion of traditional marriage vows to “forsake all others” is voluntary because Scripture contains no such requirement for the man. If, however, the man chooses to make this vow it is binding upon him (Numbers 30:2).
A man having intercourse with his wife while she is menstruating is committing a prohibited act that is ranked equally with adultery, bestiality, idolatry and male homosexuality (Leviticus 18:19-24). The man and woman who do such a thing are to be cut off from their people (Leviticus 20:18). While there is no prohibition or even any mention of masturbation anywhere in Scripture, sexual relations during menstruation is never mentioned in the modern church but masturbation is frequently condemned.

Of the 21 points on this list concerning sexual morality and marriage, only points 9, 13, 14, 15 and 18 are generally taught in the churches today. The other 16 points are either completely ignored or contradicted by church doctrine and attacked as lies, yet those points describe what the Bible actually teaches.

From point number one, it follows that at least 80% of the so-called “married” couples in the modern church are living in adultery because the women were already married (they were not virgins) when they purported to marry their husbands. This means that the greatest problem in the church today is the widespread adultery of the Christians within the church that is caused by the leaders of the church refusing to teach what the Bible actually says.

If it is correct that God takes an active hand in His creation based on the behavior of people, blessing them, withholding blessings, removing His protection or cursing them; and if it is correct that Christ likewise takes an active hand in His church, then the importance of the endemic of adultery in the church cannot be understated.

There are 16 points in the list above that the Bible teaches which the church either ignores or denies. Because of this, the vast majority of the adults in the church are in sin and the families are being destroyed by divorce, permanently injuring the children. If that sin does not matter because God forgives sin, there is no point in obeying anything in Scripture and the entire so-called “religion” of Christianity is a joke.

Five Is Not The Number You Want

November 17, 2016March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad21 Comments

Are these “average” men?

On a scale of one to ten, Average = Five

Odds are, you are average or close to it because that’s what most people are. You probably already know you could be better than that and you really need to. Because we have reached the point at which average is no longer acceptable. This is no longer “just” about success with women, it’s about success in life. Being as attractive as possible is now as important if not more important than other factors such as education, if for no other reason than the fact that women pretty much rule the world of human resources. They are the gatekeepers of employment.

First, the foundation of becoming more attractive is learning game. There is no substitute because becoming more physically attractive is meaningless if you don’t know what to do with it. Men are attracted to youth, beauty and fertility in women within the context of submissive femininity. She may be a beautiful thing physically, but if she’s a raving bitch she isn’t attractive. Likewise, women may be attracted to the man who has the physical attributes, but only if he projects that masculine dominance and confidence they crave. They will also be attracted to him without the physical attributes as long as he projects the masculine dominance and confidence. Learn game.

News flash: The guys in the photo above are doing better than you’d think, because according to the Centers for Disease Control, 37.9 percent of adults over 20 are obese and another 32.8% are overweight. That’s a whopping 70.7% of adults over 20 years of age are either obese or overweight. Now, one might wonder what those terms mean and the CDC helpfully explains that “overweight” and “obese” are defined according to body mass index (BMI) which is essentially your weight in kilos divided by the square of your height in meters. This is actually the spot to start with, but it’s measured with a mirror, not a scale.

Unfortunately, BMI has nothing to do with bodyfat. According to the CDC’s version of healthy (which works because so very few exercise) the men in the chart below at 3% to 10% bodyfat have a good chance of qualifying as being obese. Depending on how muscular a man is, those from 10% to 24% probably qualify as “healthy” and those over 25% in the photo below are either overweight or obese according to the CDC.

The difference between being fat and having a booger hanging out of your nose is simple: Both are repulsive and both are fixable, but the booger will soon be forgotten after you get rid of it. And I know that for some, those rolls of fat represent a battle you don’t want to fight and that’s okay. For those of you who want to be a man of excellence, think of it as a booger hanging from your nose and make it disappear. Believe it or not, that isn’t nearly as difficult as you might think, it just takes discipline. If you look at the second photo of the man with the sculpted physique at 6-7% bodyfat and think you could never… you’re wrong. The problem is in your head.

Change Is Part Of Life

The one truly unchangeable thing about a man is his height, but even that can be nudged a bit in terms of perception. This is important because one of the first things people will notice about a man is his height if he’s either too tall or too short. Take a look at the distribution of heights between men and women:

Average height for a man is just over 5′ 10″ and shorter than that is a disadvantage. The thing is, you can compensate if you’re a bit less than average and you’d be amazed at how many men do this. What I’m talking about is elevator shoes, which isn’t nearly as weird as one might think. In fact, it’s the male equivalent of a push-up bra. However, this is one of those things that impacts the way other men perceive you and that had an impact on how you are treated.

Amazon has a good selection and if you’re really interested you can find other sources. Tallmenshoes sells their shoes both on Amazon and from their site. I tried a pair similar to these to see how they worked. It was odd, but I had the impression people (especially women) who know me were subconsciously trying to figure out what was different about me. They did sense a difference. For a man of less than average height, this can be a game-changer. In terms of congruence this is an all-or-nothing option, which means do it all the time or don’t do it at all. That’s something to consider because if you choose that strategy you’ll need to adjust your wardrobe, so give it some thought.

Looks and Style Go Hand In Hand

Most men are clueless in terms of style. Completely clueless. For a lot of men, one of the best investments they could make is to pay a wardrobe consultant to help develop a personal style in clothing. I’ve long thought a man needs a uniform and a man’s wardrobe should be viewed from that perspective… but over time the choices a man makes about his clothing will create a uniform. Usually the wrong one. After spending the time and energy getting your body to look good, it is stupid not to showcase it properly. I’m not talking about emulating a celebrity, I’m talking about having a wardrobe of clothing that looks good on you, with a focus on those items for everyday wear that emphasize your good points and minimize your deficiencies. Because almost everyone has deficiencies. Uniforms are used to identify and you want your uniform to identify you as a man of high value.

It is worthwhile to spend the time and find a tailor or at least a seamstress who can alter your clothing for you. It is amazing how many older women there are out there who have all the tools and plenty of experience along with a lot of time on their hands. They can often be a better choice than a professional tailor because they’re able to give more time to helping you get things right. On the down-side, their ideas about what looks right might not fit your style at all. Still, for simple things like taking in trousers or adjusting the fall of a coat, they can be invaluable.

After game… confidence, looks and style are just the starting point in terms of the competition. After that there’s provisioning capability. These days, a college degree is a very good credential to have. Unless you’re going into STEM or aiming for some professional accreditation, keep in mind that it’s just a piece of paper. With that in mind, it is insanity to borrow $50k in order to get an ‘education’ that gets you into a $15 per hour job. Go to the University of the People and get the damn degree online really cheap. Fully accredited, tuition free, the student pays a flat fee of $100 per final exam.

You Built It, Now What?

Since this is a Christian (although somewhat heterodox) blog, I’ll assume male readership is far more interested in marriage than just getting laid. The problem with finding a marital partner is rather simple: Is she attracted to you? This is a critical question because it is a fools errand to marry a woman who is not attracted to you. There are three basic litmus tests to answer the question of “is she really attracted to you?”

Will she have sex with you?
Will she share you (sexually) with another woman?
Will she submit to you (obey you)?

Like it or not, the question of whether a woman will get undressed and climb in bed with a man is pretty much the litmus test of his attraction. Women will certainly object to that, but it’s the truth and their inability to play the V card is proof.

Some might think this is incorrect, but the point is attraction is determined by the women and women are attracted primarily to masculine dominance mixed with confidence and charisma and everything else comes after that. When we look at marriage as opposed to sex the provisioning ability and other traits play a much stronger role, but attraction is primarily a function of perceived masculinity, dominance and confidence. This is one reason why men who are not good looking, out of shape and otherwise real assholes are often found in the company of very attractive women. Just to remind, that graph is not based on looks, it’s her assessment of the man and his attractiveness according to his current and possibly past competition.

Muscle, Masculinity, Dominance and Status. They All Work Together

The man’s relative attractiveness is determined by the woman’s assessment of his attractiveness. First, it’s her localized assessment according to his competition, but it can include men from her past (alpha widow syndrome). A man who is considered a 9 in Southern Mississippi might not even be considered a 6 in Las Vegas or Los Angeles. Notice the following torsos are not fat. Because so many are overweight or obese these days, the amazing thing is that just being height-weight proportionate is considered attractive. On the left we have skinny, or “normal” meaning undeveloped. Not good. Next we have defined, which is better than skinny because it demonstrates some fitness. Following that we have buff, which is probably the best choice for most men. Finally, we have very muscular, which can be threatening or frightening on first impression.

Get this through your head: Women are attracted to men who have the admiration, respect and honor of other men. It’s called “status” and it’s attractive. Men know what kind of discipline it takes to stay in shape and you get respect for that, but it’s just the beginning. You have to demonstrate competence and dependability, have confidence and charisma and most of all understand loyalty and trust. It’s called being a man.

The longer I live the more it seems the vast majority never left the mentality of high school behind, so consider social dynamics in terms of high school. Learn how to fight. Learning to fight and sparring with other men will give you two things: confidence and humility. You will be submitted, you will be beat and you will learn that you aren’t all that. Which is a valuable lesson to learn, but it teaches other lessons as well. You won’t have the confident self-assurance to handle confrontations with men until you’ve been punched in the face a good number of times and learned to keep on fighting.

You don’t know what confidence is until the day you walk into a room full of people and realize that if push comes to shove, you can probably take down any of them and come out on top. And when you get to that point you should realize you have nothing to prove. It also helps to know there may be a quiet guy in that room who can kick your ass without working up a sweat, you just don’t know which one he is.

When it comes to a demonstration of high value in terms of status, being a celebrity is at the top. I highly recommend getting involved in theater for any man because the benefits are beyond compare. Read the linked post, you might learn something. Shakespeare had it right: All the world’s a stage and we are merely bit players upon it.

All other things being equal, the guy who maximizes his body, has style, a good income and tight game will be able to write his own ticket and have a far better chance of having a successful marriage. Confidence and charisma will definitely enhance both career and social life as well as marriage. You must be the man of excellence and you must be the man in control of himself, which will get you the respect and honor of other men. Game teaches that you are the prize but it’s seldom mentioned that it’s your job to make sure you’re not her consolation prize.

This is because while a woman may refuse to have sex because she isn’t that attracted to a man, there comes a point at which she would consider marrying him if he has money and a good income. Even though she isn’t attracted. The problem with that is obvious: Consider the stories about the pretty woman who married a guy for his money and cheats on him with the cabana boy… and then goes all Eat-Pray-Love, divorce rapes him, steals his stuff, alienates his children and ruins his life. But we never hear stories about the woman who is really attracted to her husband cheating on him or blowing up her family. Learn the lesson.

For men on the left side of the graph, money is a requirement. On the right side of the graph money isn’t a requirement. In the middle it depends on the mix, but this reflects the dualism of women: their desire for both the alpha dominance and the beta provisioning.

If you want to understand the dichotomy of this, play one-on-one “Fuck-Marry-Kill” with some women you know. This is best done in a place with a lot of people so there’s a good variety to choose from. In this version you each take turns picking people for the other and they have the choice of fuck them, marry them or kill them. It gets more interesting if they have to explain why and that can be eye-opening because over the course of playing the game you will learn more than you might imagine. Over time it’s impossible to conceal the truth with this game. The women will figure this out faster than you’d imagine and if she refuses to play, that should tell you something as well: the medium is the message.

Female communication emphasizes subtext. The words are important within a context that includes facial expression, posture, attitude, tone, inflection and locution. The total of all of that produces the subtext. The subtext of Fuck-Marry-Kill is the brutal truth of the feminine imperative and the dualistic sexual strategy universally described in the manosphere as “Alpha fucks and Beta bucks.” To round it out, the game has the logical inclusion of a category for any man who would not qualify AF or BB: Kill. Because if he isn’t in one of the two categories that benefit her then he may as well be dead.

Does anyone think, for even a moment, that a woman will tell a man prior to their marriage that she’s just marrying him because he has money, she’s not attracted to him, she’s never loved him and she never will? If you can imagine such a situation I’m sure the story starts with “Once upon a time” and it ends very badly for the woman. No, she will convince him she is in love with him and she will give him affection and sex (even if she has to repress her revulsion) and do what she has to do to get the magical ring that guarantees her a claim on half his assets and a half-interest in his income. After all, everyone tells us Anna Nichole married for love…

Sexual Morality

Observably, women will marry a man they wouldn’t otherwise agree to have sex with. This means that all other things being equal, a woman’s willing desire to have sex without commitment is a better indication of her attraction than anything else. Which sounds an awful lot like Toad is saying “dump her if she won’t put out by the third date.”

If she’s not a virgin and not married and you both know and understand what that means, then all other things being equal, yes, that’s more or less correct.

It’s not a sin and she should know that because otherwise you have no business wooing her. You must consider the context: She gave away her best to someone else. If you’re not good enough for her second-best, stop investing your time and look elsewhere. If she isn’t attracted enough to give you sex without a relationship “reward” but she is willing to give you sex if you reward her, her attraction to the reward is greater than her attraction to you. Look elsewhere, because the truth is that if she was attracted to you, she would want to have sex with you. For a great many men it is profoundly disturbing to learn just how willing a woman is to give men unfettered access to her body if she’s attracted to them. Most men can’t handle it and will refuse to believe it.

For those who know the truth, it is NOT amazing how often, after 20 minutes of flirting and escalating attraction, a woman will say “OK” when the attractive man drops a nuclear line like “Let’s fuck.” Disturbing is the fact that she’s more likely to say yes if she’s married… And for a Christian man this information is like the sound of nails on a chalkboard. Especially if it’s his wife and another man.

Ultimately this devolves to an issue of conscience and motivation. The women chose the game, God made the rules and you get to decide whether you’ll play or not. If your conscience is telling you that you just can’t, then you can’t. Quit complaining and find a virgin or buy a fleshlight. Or a sex robot, which appear to be getting better and better every year. If any female readers are insulted by the implications of that, keep in mind that I didn’t make the rules, God did. It was the women who chose to put themselves in that position.

If she is a virgin, as the saying goes- “you break it, you’ve bought it.” This points to the one time a woman has a moral claim on sex as an investment and God’s Word backs her up on this completely. Her virginity is an irrevocable investment in the man she chooses to give it to, for better or worse, come what will and what may. That investment can only be given to ONE man. Which brings us back to the point that if she isn’t a virgin it means she gave away her best to someone else. And 98% of the time, it isn’t so much that she gave it away as that she threw it away not knowing how valuable it was.

And not to put too fine a point on it, but consider a few pieces of data that come out of all the questions women have answered at OKCupid. The first is the well-known propensity for women to rate 80% of men’s photos as below average. The second is if one looks ONLY at women who rate themselves as “Christian and it’s important” we see that over 90% of those who answered the questions** say they must have sex prior to getting married. To top it all off, just less than 87% of the group saying they must have sex before marriage also say that in order to get married the sexual relationship must be the best they’ve ever had. Think through the implications of that. The bottom line is if the woman is a non-virgin, sex is a HUGE point of negotiation for her and a litmus test for you.

** Note this was self-selected. The women who don’t hold that position may well never answer such a question. And yet, the sample size is in the thousands.

Lover vs Provider

Again, as a non-virgin, she chose to put herself in a morally neutral position on sex and if you’ve followed my advice she’s not married and she knows there are no moral issues. If she’s not attracted enough to want you, sexually, find someone else because the desire on her part is more for your wallet than you. This is the dichotomy between the lover and the provider. You want her to be attracted to you as a lover before you make the decision to be her provider, so take provider status off the table. Be playful, be sexual. If she’s not interested you’ll both know. If there isn’t enough attraction to get to sex, move on.

Women obviously want both a lover and provider but many of them are willing to settle for just a provider… and you don’t want to be that guy. At all. But remember where this is going. You want a marriage that will withstand the cultural maelstrom in which at every turn she’s encouraged to take the money and run. You need her to be attracted to you and everything else can be built on that. Her willingness to have sex with you is just one point on the attractiveness scale, but it means you are actually on her attractiveness scale.

I have made the point, repeatedly, that in this legal environment the only safe marriage a man can arrange is a polygynous marriage. That’s because the State cannot regard it as a marriage, so no divorce, no splitting of the assets, no alimony. If one marries with a written contract all the details can be taken care of and the only thing a court can really do in the event of one of the women wanting out is to determine custody of the children. If the husband has children from all the wives then it’s far more likely he will get custody of the children. Essentially the arrangement places all the incentives on staying in the marriage and working things out rather than on blowing up the marriage in return for cash and prizes.

I’ve also stated previously that a good proxy of a man’s ability to achieve a polygynous marriage is his ability to get a threesome, because a man who can get multiple women in his bed has what it takes to get multiple women into a marriage with him. While the man’s provisioning ability has an impact on his marriage value, sex is the litmus test of attraction. Sharing him sexually is the litmus test of high attraction.

I can already hear the screams of outrage from men who want to claim that decent Christian women don’t do that! And they’re wrong. So completely wrong that it’s sad and embarrassing to hear it. The truth is that it can be easier to get two women into your bed at the same time than just one.

Be that guy who is all the way over on the right of that curve. The charming guy with a great job or business that has the respect of other men. The guy who leads an active life, is in great shape and rocks a chiseled physique with the 6-pack abs that merge into the belt of Adonis. The guy who can rule a woman (or women) with just the right mixture of alpha and beta to keep things on track for the long haul.

The real value of Athol Kay’s book “Married Man Sex Life Primer” was that it has the men create a male attraction plan (MAP) which requires that they get in shape and learn game. However, beyond that (and more importantly) it teaches that in marriage there has to be a blend of alpha and beta, which corresponds to dopamine and oxytocin. Too much alpha and not enough beta results in a lack of comfort (oxytocin) that blows it up. Too much beta and not enough alpha results in the “I love you (lots of oxytocin) but I’m not ‘in love’ with you” (not enough dopamine). With the right mix of alpha and beta, things work out just fine.

The structural problem with the Married Man Sex Life Primer is that it’s essentially a guide to fixing a problem rather than preventing a problem. The issue is familiar to anyone who has choked down the red pill, in that important people a man’s social circle won’t want to recognize the changes in him. They want to keep him in the comfortable “spot” in which they’ve classified him and that is especially true for relationships with women. It is extremely uncomfortable for many to see someone change for the better and they resist recognizing such changes. For that and many other reasons, the best choice for many men is to include a change of location in their plans. A new environment with new associates and friends who perceive him to be what he is, not what he was.

Change Is Not Easy- For Both You And Others

The remarkable inability of people to change and the resistance to change is an opportunity. I doubt one in a hundred of my readers would try, but the goal is to be in the top 6% and an average man has the capacity to do that. The problem is when you start to change others will be affected by those changes. Many of them will not like it and you will be greeted with resistance from some because your improvement changes the dynamic of the relationship. Ultimately it’s about them losing power because you’ve improved. Never forget that.

The Christian community is particularly bad about being intolerant of anyone making changes to increase their attractiveness. I addressed that in a separate post because it’s such a hold-over from ancient times regarding the hatred for all things sexual, especially sexual attraction or pleasure.

One of the things the PUA community will tell a man is he needs to go out and bang a dozen women in order to get rid of his issues with “oneitis” and see them as the interchangeable commodity they are. Women scream they are not interchangeable but arguably, they are. What, specifically, do modern women bring to a relationship other than a vagina? Then come the screams about morality, ironically from a group in which 80% are living in adultery.

As to the morality, note that the advice isn’t to go deflower a dozen virgins. The women chose to roll around in the gutter and there are consequences. And, that’s actually not my advice because there are other ways to get rid of oneitis. Self improvement is part of that because it will bring with it a much different perspective. Your goal, however, should be to shoot for the top 6%. Almost any average man can move himself into the top 6% within a few years if he is willing to do the work necessary. The man really doesn’t need to hurry because a few years of investment will pay huge dividends and there is a new crop of women coming along every year.

(In a lot of metro areas the top 6% is $170k to $250k, but $100k is the top 1% in so many other areas that it all balances out. And that’s individual income, not household income.)

One thing that chart doesn’t reflect is a man’s control of his time, which is power. We can all think of men who earn a lot of money but have no control over their time. For some it’s a labor of love (I know doctors who fall in this category) and for others it’s a modern day form of slavery. Then there are those who have very little other than control of their time. In the middle, think of the man who is sufficiently independent that he can take time off when he desires (within reason) without threatening his income. Further up the scale is the man with passive income that doesn’t require his time. That level of independence translates to freedom and power. That too is attractive.

At the end of the day, the combination of a man’s masculinity, competence, confidence, charisma, dependability and personal character will determine how he is perceived by the world around him. And that will help determine how attractive he is to women. The fact is, it’s easier for many successful men to get married to a woman than it is to just get her to have sex with him. And that’s a difficult pill for a lot of guys to swallow, because it points to the fact that women will marry men they aren’t that attracted to (don’t really“love”) and it happens far more often than one might think. The truth is, most men are not attractive to women. The average guy is a five and he’s invisible to women who are a six or better.

And maybe you’re thinking “Why would I want that?” The answer is it doesn’t matter whether you do or don’t want multiple women bouncing around in your bed, what matters is for you to be of such high value that they would if you wanted them to. Because you’re that attractive to women. Like it or not, that’s just about your only defense against divorce in a world gone mad.

As a rule women do not want to end a relationship with a man to whom they are highly attracted.

God gave women a desire to be ruled by a man who is fit to rule her. Be the man women desire to rule them.

If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for her because it’s what she needs.

If not for her, do it for your children because they’re depending on you to hold the family together and protect them from their mother’s hypergamy.

If you’re too lazy or selfish to be bothered, hopefully you’ll die childless and won’t pass on those genes.

It’s Not Like She Was A Virgin…

November 11, 2016March 8, 2024 Artisanal ToadLeave a comment

Ah yes… the morning after. It should be an interesting relationship.

Women, Commitment and Sex

November 2, 2016March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad17 Comments

The last post was a bit of quick background on male commitment to marriage, which is automatic every time the man puts his penis in a woman’s vagina. That sounds really odd, but it’s like saying the commitment to purchase a car is made automatically every time the purchase contract is signed. The point is that for a man, the commitment to marry is made with the act of marriage, which is sexual intercourse. Not so for a woman.

Men and women are different and held, by God, to different standards.

The eligible virgin has no agency when it comes to marriage. By the term eligible, I speak of the relationship of the man to the woman. Some marital relationships are forbidden, such as the proscribed incestuous relationships (Leviticus 18) and thus cannot result in marriage. In such cases, a woman may be a virgin but she is not an eligible virgin. Another example is a woman who has been engaged to marry some man. That engagement makes her ineligible to marry any other man and the Bible describes her standing as that of a wife.

The eligible virgin has no agency because her consent is not required in order for her to be married. This is difficult for many to accept, but we see in Exodus 21:7-10 where a father has the authority to sell his daughter to be another man’s concubine, which is a form of matrimony which grants her conjugal rights. We also see in Deuteronomy 21:10-14 that the woman captured in battle becomes the man’s wife without her consent. Finally, we see in Deuteronomy 22:28-29 the case of the woman who is raped into marriage to the man who forced her to have sex. Thus, an eligible virgin may be forced into marriage with the act of sexual intercourse, against her will and over her objections.

On the other side of the equation, an eligible virgin may choose to marry a man and according to Numbers 30:3-5, her father may forbid the marriage in the day he hears of it, thereby annulling the marriage as if it had never occurred. Thus, an eligible virgin may be forced into marriage against her will and may have her marriage that she desired and consented to annulled against her wishes. Therefore, she has no agency when it comes to marriage and her consent either for the marriage or against the marriage is irrelevant.

This is a matter of what Scripture actually says. There is no requirement for the eligible virgin to give her consent to marry and multiple examples in the Law of situations in which the woman is married over her objections and against her will. Obviously it would be desirable and good for the woman to willingly consent to her marriage and desire marriage to that man, but the eligible virgin’s consent is not required. The eligible virgin is married with the act of sexual intercourse and the man who takes her virginity is her husband by virtue of that act.

Thus, generally speaking, all women are virgins when they marry, she is bound to her husband as long as he lives and sex with any other man while she is still married is an act of adultery. That fact alone has huge implications for the modern church.

The Eligible Non-Virgin

The woman who is not a virgin and yet is not married (such as a widow or a legitimately divorced woman) has agency. Numbers 30:3-5 makes it clear that the virgin daughter is under the authority of her father and he has the authority to forbid any agreement she might make. Following that, Numbers 30:6-8 makes it clear that upon marriage the authority of the father passes to the husband, thus the virgin and the married woman are under authority and any agreement they might make is subject to review by their father or husband. Because as Genesis 3:16 states: “he shall rule over you.” Not so the woman who is not married and not a virgin. Numbers 30:9 states that the widow or the divorced woman are not under a man’s authority and any agreement or vow they make is binding upon them.

Specific to marriage, we notice that the Apostle Paul states in 1st Corinthians 7 that if a woman desires to marry she is to be allowed to marry. In verse 39, the woman who is no longer bound has the authority to marry whomever she desires, but only if he is a Christian.

This causes great distress to churchians because the eligible non-virgin must consent to marriage before the act of marriage will create a marriage between the man and woman. Given that there is no prohibition anywhere in Scripture that forbids a man and woman who are eligible to marry from engaging in sexual intercourse, if the eligible non-virgin has sex with a man but does not consent to marry, it’s just sex. According to Romans 4:15 and 5:13, there being no prohibition there is no sin involved.

Crossing The Sexual Rubicon

All the churchians want to stand up and scream “FORNICATION” but that cannot be. Neither is it “PREMARITAL SEX” because the couple isn’t engaged to marry. The point is that either the Apostle Paul is a liar and Romans 4:15 and 5:13 is a lie, or it is not a sin for a man and woman who are eligible to marry to have sex. If the woman is a virgin, they are married. If the woman is not a virgin and consents to marry, they are married. If the woman is not a virgin and does not consent to marry, the couple are not married (she did not consent) and neither are they in sin.

This is how the prostitute Rahab could be a righteous woman. Obviously she was not a virgin and not married (she was most likely a widow) and as an eligible non-virgin she was free to have sex with any man she chose and not be in sin. And if she got paid for it, that was not a sin either. In fact, the only prohibition on prostitution in all of Scripture is the prohibition on being a cult prostitute, prostitution as part of idolatrous worship. There is no prohibition on money-for-sex prostitution anywhere in Scripture.

From a Scriptural point of view, there is no difference between being a prostitute and being a farmer. A farmer could be a righteous farmer obeying the Law, or he could be a sinful farmer by violating the Law. Likewise, a prostitute could be a righteous prostitute (not violating the Law) or she could be a sinful prostitute (adultery or idolatry). So, if farming can be a moral and righteous way to make a living, so can prostitution.

Which sends the churchians into a frenzy of outrage. The one and only prohibition on using the services of a prostitute is found at 1st Corinthians 6:15-16 and that prohibition applies only to Christian men. There was no such prohibition found anywhere in the Law and under the Law, a married man could have sex with a legitimate prostitute and not be in sin. While there is a prohibition on Christian men using prostitutes, there is nothing anywhere in Scripture that forbids a woman, even a Christian woman, from being a prostitute.

Imagine Your Parents Having Sex

Most people find it rather uncomfortable (to say the least) to imagine their parents having sex. I’m not talking about starfish get-it-over-with duty sex. I’m talking about noisy, sweaty, wreck-the-bed fucking. For whatever reason, our minds simply don’t want to go there.

The idea that sex is dirty, evil or even just plain naughty got baked into the cultural cake a long time ago. No person can deny their parents had sex because that’s how they came into being. And wouldn’t you like to think that your parents enjoyed it? So… why is it so emotionally painful to imagine parents having sex? If your parents were married then obviously there isn’t anything immoral involved because sex and making babies is what marriage is supposed to be all about. Obeying that “be fruitful and multiply” command.

But… what could be worse than imagining your parents having sex?

What REALLY makes the churchians howl is applying this to the former prostitute Mary Magdalene. If Mary Magdalene was a righteous prostitute, meaning that she was not married, then any man who had sex with her was not in sin as long as he was eligible to marry her. That included Jesus. I am not saying He did, but if Jesus had sex with Mary Magdalene, He was not in sin.

Again, I’m not making the claim that Jesus was banging Mary Magdalene, but if He was, He was not in sin for doing so. This raises some questions for the peanuts gallery.

Did He? We don’t know. There is no record stating whether He did or didn’t, so anyone claiming that He just couldn’t have done it is full of shit because they weren’t there.

If He did, was He in sin? There is no prohibition that forbids any man from having sex with a prostitute in the Law. The only mention of prostitutes in the Law is Deuteronomy 23:17, which states that none of the daughters of Israel shall be a cult prostitute (prostitution as part of idolatry). Anyone who claims that Jesus would have been in sin if He had sex with Mary Magdalene is automatically making the claim that the Apostle Paul lied in Romans 4:15 and 5:13.

While the prohibition that forbids Christian men from having sex with prostitutes in 1st Corinthians 6:15-16 didn’t apply because that came many years later, God does not change. On the other hand, Mary Magdalene was no longer a prostitute. She gave that up to become one of the followers of Jesus.

Sex with an eligible virgin means you’re married, whether she likes it or not.

Sex with an eligible non-virgin who consents to be married means you’re married.

Sex with an eligible non-virgin who doesn’t consent to marry is just sex and not a sin.

The Commitment Of A Man To Marriage

November 1, 2016March 8, 2024 Artisanal Toad4 Comments

How Does A Man Commit To Marriage?

We know that Scripture is the best interpreter of Scripture and we’ve already seen that the Hebrew word “dabaq” as used in Genesis 2:24 means sex. But that’s a special meaning, just for that passage, because everywhere else that the word “dabaq” is used in the Bible (for human interactions) it means to cling, to join, to keep close. In other words, it means commitment.

Jerome, (the original MGTOW who famously stated that if he wanted a companion he’d get a dog), not only hated sex and everything related to sexual pleasure but he was selected as the man to make the official translation of the Bible for the early church. So, we might quibble about the usage of the word “dabaq” in 1st Kings 11:2, which really should read that King Solomon loved to have sex with his wives. Given that Solomon was the wisest of all men he probably figured out a way to remember the names of all 700 of his wives and all 300 of his concubines, but he didn’t have 1000 women because he got off on his commitment to them.

However, the fact is, Moses chose to use the word that means commitment in order to describe the act of sex in Genesis 2:24. The impact of this is even more apparent when we look at the Greek word “kollao” which was used to translate the word “dabaq” when Jesus quoted Genesis 2:24 in Matthew 19. The word “kollao” (as used for human relationships) means to glue, to unite, to join; to knit together. So in Hebrew we have the word that generally means commitment and in Greek we have the word that means to glue together, to bind and join being used for the act of marriage, which is sexual intercourse.

From the language used, we can see that when the man has sex with the woman, that is the act of marriage and with that act the man makes his commitment of loyalty and faithfulness to the woman. Every single time. Think of it as a renewal of the commitment every time he does it.

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